Margaret e Jacobsen

Born, adopted, and raised in Southern California, now residing in Portland, OR. Mother of two, co-parenting with my ex-husband. In love with an activist, writing and taking photos, usually while eating burritos. I believe dancing can heal all the blues.
Recent Articles

My Kids Make Me Feel Proud To Be Polyamorous

Over the last four years, my family dynamic has changed because of divorce and polyamory. I'd always wanted a large family, but I believed was only attainable by having lots of kids, and polyamory was...
By Margaret e Jacobsen

As A Mom Of 2, I Think Giving Birth Is So Gross

The fact that women are able to give birth and bring tiny humans into the world is a beautiful, amazing phenomena. However, I think the actual act of giving birth is not-so beautiful. I think giving b...
By Margaret e Jacobsen

Actually, 'Lemonade' Already Won Album Of The Year

Last night at the 59 annual Grammy awards, one of the greatest living entertainers of all time did not win Album of the Year. At first, the fact that Beyoncé lost the Album of the Year cloaked me in a...
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I'm A Poly Mom, & Other Parents Shame Me For It

Coming out as polyamorous was just like coming out as queer. It was who I had been all along: I just didn't realize it until I was 25 years old. I didn't come out in any formal way, and I didn't make ...
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It's Hard For Me To Talk To My White Friends About Being A Black Mom In America

There are moments when I'm at the playground with my children and our friends when I have to remind my children not to pretend to be playing with guns, while the white mother beside me lets her childr...
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I Live With A Mental Illness, & I Think I Know What Kanye West's Going Through

For the past few years, we've cringed as we've watched Kanye West go on countless rants, most recently against Beyonce, Jay-Z and Hillary Clinton at a concert in Sacramento. We've covered our eyes whe...
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The Truth Is, Co-Parenting Doesn't Get Easier

For the most part, I've loved co-parenting with my ex-husband. We live within seven minutes of each other and our schedules are fairly flexible, so we pick up the kids from school together, share meal...
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For People Of Color, The Whitelashing Of The 2016 Election Is Nothing New

In the fall of 2008, I gave birth to a baby girl who was both white and black, and in the same month, Barack Obama was elected President of the United States. The air, the people around me, the world ...
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We Knew It Was Over, But We Waited 2 Years To Divorce

It was almost two years before my ex-husband and I divorced after we decided that our marriage was over. I lived in the house for a few months after we had the conversation that saw us choosing to end...
By Margaret e Jacobsen

Actually, Cheating Wasn't The Reason I Left My…

I cheated on my husband during our seven-year marriage, but that isn't why we got divorced. In fact, after cheating, an interesting thing happened to our relationship: we were able to be honest with e...
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