Steph Montgomery

Mom, stepmom, writer, runner, and activist. Steph loves science, politics, home improvement projects, and pie and hates cake, traditional gender roles, and the patriarchy.
Recent Articles

How Post-Baby Life Brought Me Closer To My Partner

By Steph Montgomery

I Refuse To Call Motherhood A "Job" 

You've probably heard the saying, "Motherhood is the most important job in the world." Heck, I've even said it. You've probably also heard, "Being a mom is the toughest job," or even, "A mom's job is ...
By Steph Montgomery

I Put Too Much Pressure On Myself As A New Mom 

I was such a "perfect mother" before I had children. I knew everything and had all the answers and was so confident. Then, when I became a mother, I discovered that parenting was nothing like I expect...
By Steph Montgomery

I Refuse To Joke About Planning My Kids' Wedding

Each time I've been pregnant, I've had a close friend who was pregnant at the same time. It's been awesome to have someone to commiserate with, and a friend on maternity leave at the same time as me. ...
By Steph Montgomery

It's Time To Finally Stop Shaming Older Moms

In this era of #mommywars, us moms face a lot of criticism. From the time you announce your pregnancy until, well, forever, it seems like everyone has an opinion about how you're supposed to do things...
By Steph Montgomery

What It's Like To Tell Your Kids You're Engaged

The night my husband proposed was one of the happiest nights of my life. We were on a rare date night, and as the opening credits of Star Wars: The Force Awakens moved down the screen and the theme so...
By Steph Montgomery

Going To Therapy With My Kids Changed My Parenting

It's difficult to describe what it's like to watch your child struggle with their mental health. It made me feel so helpless. It wasn't until I went to therapy with my daughter, that I really started ...
By Steph Montgomery

How A Grown-Ass Man Handles Pre-Term Labor

There's a lot of information out there about how to support your pregnant partner when they go into labor, are induced, or have a c-section. You can read articles, attend classes, and, perhaps most im...
By Steph Montgomery

Actually, The 4th Trimester Is The Absolute Best

For some people, pregnancy is a magical time full of happiness, wonder, and beauty. I am not one of those people. For me, the first trimester was full of uncontrollable nausea and vomiting, the second...
By Steph Montgomery

Stop Commenting On Pregnant Women's Bodies

People have an annoying habit of asking pregnant people the most personal questions, as if your right to privacy disappears when you become "host" to a fetus in your uterus. You have to develop a thic...
By Steph Montgomery