There are few parenting choices more divisive than where to put your baby to sleep. Parents tend to feel very passionately about their parenting choices and often either don't understand or flat out disagree with people who make different choices; and the choice to bed-share is no different. With luck, the people who disagree aren't too vocal or too condemning, and the people who don't understand will seek out information. Still, there are certain questions that bed-sharing parents are absolutely tired of hearing, even if those questions are posed with the best of intentions.
When I first put my baby in my bed, I was at my wit's end. I was exhausted and completely frazzled, and my son was a 4-month-old baby who just so happened to be a freakin' terrible sleeper. Restlessly, he'd wake up every 30 to 45 minutes, nurse for 15 minutes, and then take another 30 or 45 minutes to fall back to sleep. Postpartum hormones coupled with sheer exhaustion do not a happy mama make and, before too long, something had to give. I'd read about safe bed-sharing and knew that it wasn't dangerous if done correctly, but I was still worried. Then my body did something amazing: it responded, naturally and instinctively, to the presence of my baby. I knew just where to put him. I knew just how to lie so that he was safe. I didn't move unless I was completely awake and aware.
In other words, bed-sharing saved me. I was suffering from postpartum depression (PPD), so if I would've added insomnia to my already fragile mental state I would've come undone. So yes, I want people to understand how important bed-sharing was for me and my family, but there are certain questions I'm pretty damn tired of answering.