If I could give a universal message to all my mom friends (hell, to all moms in general) it’s that you’re allowed to process and adjust to the changes your baby brings any way that works for you. However, as I’m getting ready to do the baby stage all over again with my second child, I’m approaching those first few postpartum months a little differently this time. I've realized there are requests you're allowed to make as a new mom, and unapologetically making those requests are going to help me get used to all the changes that are going to occur in my life the moment I become a mom of two.
After my son arrived, it felt like my whole world was turned upside down. All of a sudden, the stakes were too high to even pause and deal with the reality of my new life as a mom with a brand new baby because, you know, he needed something literally every few minutes. However, moms are still humans who have basic needs, too. Just because you have a baby doesn’t mean you stop needing to eat and sleep and bathe and change your clothes at least once every three or four days. Of course, I totally get the urge to put yourself second on your list (or third or fourth, depending on what other responsibilities you have) when you're getting used to parenthood. But still, you should be on the list.
For moms that are currently in this situation, or who are about to be, I’d encourage you to feel good (even proud, actually) about remembering to function while in the throes of newborn life. So, with that in mind, here’s what you have full permission to ask for: