For me, and for every single one of my three pregnancies, the first trimester was as horrible as the stereotypes tell you it is. I was exhausted, hormonal, had relentless nausea and vomiting, and seemed to gain weight the moment I peed on a pregnancy test. To make matters worse, I was scared to tell people I was pregnant, afraid of losing both my pregnancy and my job. And, unfortunately, I learned just how cruel people are to pregnant women in their first trimester, too. I mean, people are really damn mean, you guys.
Dealing with often debilitating and uncomfortable pregnancy side effects is difficult all on its own. So the last thing any newly-pregnant person needs is to constantly hear people's rude, inappropriate, creepy, intrusive, sexist, and upsetting questions and comments about you, your pregnancy, your body, your job, and your choices. But, when people find out you're pregnant they seem to automatically feel untethered to the rules set forth by common social decency. They also tend to shame the hell out of you if you dare to have a cup of needed coffee to get through the day, have to take time off from work to manage early pregnancy symptoms, or indulge in a pregnancy craving, even if it’s the only thing you can keep down.
I’m pretty sure the people mean well. I mean, I want to believe that people aren’t intentionally cruel to pregnant women when they are literally growing babies inside their bodies. I'm hopeful that people have the best intentions are well aware that pregnancy can make you uncomfortable, emotional, and constantly nauseous. Either way, it will do loads of pregnant people a helluva lot of good if people would make sure to remember that the first trimester pregnancy is hard enough without strangers doing the following: