5 Changes In Your Orgasm After Having A Baby

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As if giving birth doesn't change enough things in your life, you can add changes in your orgasm after having a baby to the list. I know — you don't want to hear this. Your vagina has been through enough as it is, and all you want is for the 'ol girl to go back to her original ways when it comes to your pleasure. Honestly, you deserve as much. It's been more than nine months of enduring change after change in your body, and you have to draw the line somewhere, right?

Well, don't fret too quickly. Although there are plenty of rumors about how unsatisfying postpartum sex can be, let me toss a little hope into your basket: sometimes it gets better. Yep, changes in your lady parts from pregnancy and birth can have a pleasantly surprising effect on your orgasms. Just like most things that have to do with the body, it's important to remember that everyone is different — and each woman experiences sex after giving birth in their own unique ways. So I encourage you to take a look at these five examples, and see what might been in store for you and your orgasm after you become a mom.

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1.Your Sensitivity Increases

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You hear a lot of bad news about postpartum sex, so I want to kick this off on a positive note. After baby, your tingly spots can get tingly-er. As clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk told Women's Health, "there seems to be some evidence that nerve compression from the trauma of birth can increase a woman’s orgasmic sensitivity in a positive way." Better remember to high-five you baby for that giving you that gem.

2.You're Not Ready

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When it comes to sex after childbirth, it may seem like your vagina has pressed the pause button. According to Parenting, as your body heals from the trauma of birth, you may not be fully able to enjoy sex right away — which makes it more difficult to orgasm.

3.Your Have Brain Interference

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Believe it or not, you need your brain to be in the right state to have an orgasm. Having a new baby in the house can amp-up your stress and put your brain on high alert, which in turn this makes it harder for you to orgasm, according to Everyday Family. Shutting off the part of your brain that manages stressors may not be easy, but it's worth it if you know you'll climax. To help you focus, make sure you are as distraction free as possible (hint: turn off the baby monitor!).

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4.You Orgasm More Freuqently

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Just when you thought it was all down hill, I've got some more good news to drop on ya. Turns out, all those pregnancy hormones might be worth the mood swings. According to Women's Health, due to hormonal changes, "the number of nerve endings near your clitoris can increase, too, leading to more frequent orgasms."

5.You're Always Guessing

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It seems like postpartum orgasms vary from woman to woman, as well as the amount of time that passes from when you deliver and when you're getting it on. Don't get too worried if things don't go exactly as they used to in your pre-pregnancy sex life. Just accept that your orgasms may keep you guessing for awhile until your body gets back in sync.

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