Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. If you love it, you're probably preparing to put on your favorite red dress or shirt, cook heart-shaped pancakes, make cards for your friends and loved ones, and plan an especially memorable date. If you hate it, I'm assuming you'll ignoring Cupid's Day entirely. But if you're not in a heteronormative relationship, or if you’ve just never bought into that gender norm BS, know that you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day in a queer-friendly way. So, perhaps, you don't have to hate this day dedicated entirely to love — all love — after all.
As a bi/queer woman in a relationship with a man, I often feel like my holidays (whether they be Valentine's Day, or any other celebratory day out of the year) fall into the trap of heteronormativity. It can be frustrating when I feel like I can’t connect as much to my queer identity, thanks to an exclusive message pushed on us all, as a culture, that really boils down to the outdated notion that love can only be shared between a man and a woman. Additionally, I frequently find myself having to explain my sexuality and, at times, even defend it to others. And on Valentine's Day in particular, describing my identity ad nauseam and fighting for my worth isn't my idea of a "sexy" good time.
So this list is for the other queer moms who might be feeling like they need a little #loveislove in their lives. This is also a list for the allies in the bunch, who want to make sure their kids grow up in an inclusive environment, knowing there’s more to romance than princes and princesses and girl-meets-boy rom coms.