Unfortunately, at the core of mommy wars lies the most popular mommy war of all time: stay-at-home moms versus working moms. I had the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom and a mom who works outside the home, and while many comments people make about working moms are simply untrue, I'm here to say that some stereotypes about working moms are legit. If it seems that moms who work outside of the house are "always busy" and/or "always tired," that's because they are. No, they're not looking for sympathy, they're just really, really exhausted.
Now, before you start to throw stones, please understand that I was a stay-at-home mom for a year and a half with each kid, so three years combined, and I can honestly say that every mom, regardless of her work situation, faces significant challenges. But when I stayed at home I was able to get everything done during the day. I was able to go grocery shopping, clean, cook, do laundry, attend school events, and go to whatever appointment I needed to attend during the day. My evenings and weekends were designated family times. We'd spend our evenings hanging out and the weekends doing family activities, like visiting the playgrounds or other festivities. Now, as a working mom, I have to do all of those things in the evenings and/or on weekends. In other words, there's no time for me to simply rest. I'm always tired and I'm always overwhelmed and, make no mistake, this isn't some badge of honor. No, this is the badge of motherhood.
As a stay-at-home mom I was able to spend way more time with my kids and with my family, but I felt unfulfilled on a deeply personal level. My perfect scenario would be to work part-time, if finances allowed it, but at the moment that's not an option. So, at least for the time being, I am working full-time and living the life depicted in numerous working mom stereotypes, like the following: