It's very stressful when you can't fall asleep. Then the lack of sleep makes you feel more stressed. Worrying about why you aren't sleeping? That causes even more anxiety. Suddenly you're awake all night and useless the next day. While it may be tempting to pop a Benadryl or get a prescription for a sleep-aid, there are many healthy ways to fall asleep that can get you the rest you need.
Making sure your sleep environment is quiet, dark, cool, and comfortable is a good start. That isn't always easy with needy babies and snoring partners, but it's a good start. Make sure you have a pillow you like (some like flat pillows, others like down-filled plushy pillows, and still others prefer firm ones). Invest in some soft bedding, good window shades, and earplugs, if needed. As crazy as your evenings may be, try to be disciplined in a consistent bedtime. The National Sleep Foundation recommends sticking to the same bedtime every night, even on the weekends if possible, in order to help your internal clock know it's time for bed.
Self-care is important and even though there may be kids, your partner, and your job competing for your attention, make it a priority to do some of the things below as part of your bedtime routine. And as tempting as it is to throw in that last load of laundry or to answer a few more emails, pull yourself away and start getting ready for bed. You will be much more useful in the morning.