Ever had an occasion when you weren’t in the mood, but really wanted to be? It happens. Sometimes your other obligations, general fatigue, or just an inability to “switch gears” at the end of the day get in the way of your desires. But there are ways to get turned on fast that will put you in the right headspace for sex. Because sometimes you only have a few minutes of adult time before that baby wakes up.
Taking a few minutes to relax, let your mind wander, and even just fantasize can mean the difference between “I’m just not feeling it” and “Let’s go!” Whether you’re gearing up for some fun with a partner or just a some much-needed solo time, it doesn’t have to take all day to get in the mood. Some of these ideas involve the senses (such as a warm shower or a great-smelling candle) while others require nothing more than the power of your own mind.
Basically, going from 0 to 60 doesn’t have to be an impossible task. And hey, if you’re motivated enough to even want to get turned on you’re already halfway there. With a little extra help, you’ll be ready to go in no time.
1. Indulge In Fantasy
If your personal stash of steamy thoughts won't get the job done, then borrow someone else's. "Whether you prefer traditional romance or literary porn, keep a few strategic books in the drawer of your nightstand," Susan Crain Bakos suggested in Redbook. No one else will have to know.
2. Use Scents
Aromatherapy can help rev your engines. Dr. Alan Hirsch, a smell and taste researcher, told Good Housekeeping that "the smell of lavender, pumpkin pie, and licorice can help to increase blood flow to the genital area." (Maybe that's why those pumpkin spice lattes are so popular.)
3. Create An Atmosphere
Creating an inviting atmosphere can only help. "Light some candles, make an erotic playlist," suggests Glamour. Anything that makes your space more inviting is a good idea.
4. Connect With Your Body
Getting out of your head — and more in touch with your body — is a crucial step. In the Huffington Post, sex therapists Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman recommend you "take some time at the beginning to let your partner give you light, sexy touch while you take slow, deep breaths. You may need to close your eyes at first to really feel your body." This is a great way to get more involved in the moment.
5. Take A Hot Shower
A hot shower is good for more than just sore muscles. "Surely when they invented detachable massaging showerheads, designers must have known that aching shoulders were their least likely targets," Cosmopolitan notes. "Point it against you as you would a vibrator." That's one way to multitask.
6. Soak In A Bubble Bath
If the shower feels like too much work, then a relaxing bubble bath may be more your speed. "A bubble bath is like a sensory-deprivation tank: It shuts out noise, work, and responsibilities," Dr. Scott Haltzman, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry, said in Women's Health. "One of the fundamentals of female sexual arousal is being able to push daily concerns out of your mind." All the more reason to go for a soak.
7. Reflect On Steamy Memories
Chances are there's at least a couple of memories that you could use for foreplay fodder. Cosmopolitan recommends women "think about your hottest past sexual experience." This is an easy way to reconnect with those feelings.
No, seriously. "Not only will you feel more energetic after a sweat session, but you'll get your endorphins — which put you in the mood for sex — going as well," Dennis Lin, director of the Psychosexual Medicine Program at Beth Israel Medical Center, said in Woman's Day. It turns out going to the gym is good for more than just your fitness level.
9. Get Started
Tell your partner to meet you in bed in 10 or 20 minutes. "Start to masturbate; the fact that you don’t know when to expect them will add to your tension," sex therapist Dr. Marelize Swart recommended in Marie Claire. Because anticipation is inherently sexy.