How Attachment Parenting Affects Your Kid Later In Life

Ad failed to load

Few things in life are as highly criticized as your parenting choices. Something about bringing a child into this world suddenly compels people — even strangers — to unabashedly tell you exactly what they think you're doing wrong as a parent. Even if it's framed helpful advice, there is no shortage of criticism when it comes to parenthood. Perhaps one of the top issues to be put under a microscope is how attachment parenting affects your kid later in life. Though people are quick to tell you the potentially negative effects your parenting style might have on your children, it seems attachment parenting is one of the more commons methods to receive scrutiny.

I can't tell you how many times I've been told that co-sleeping with my child, a main principle of attachment parenting, is going to make my son incapable of ever sleeping alone. In fact, any friends I have who practice attachment parenting could probably rattle of a list of weird warnings and random remarks they receive on a daily basis. But how much of that judgment is actually legitimate?

If you're curious about information which is rooted in solid evidence, too, then check out what kind of effects attachment parenting can have on your children later in life.

Ad failed to load

1They Become Emotionally Available


According to the Attachment Parenting Organization, one of the main principles of attachment parenting is emotional well-being. But does that emphasis on sensitivity carry over later in life? In a study led by Dr. M. Ann Easterbrooks, a professor of psychology, children whose parents practiced attachment parenting during infancy were more likely to demonstrate positive social behavior and emotional availability at seven years old.

2They're Easy-Going


Another key component of attachment parenting is that parents should be aware of and respond to their baby's needs, both physical and emotional. This is one of the aspects where people might believe this method fosters an unhealthy dependence. Yet, Dr. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist, told Aha! Parenting that "babies whose needs are fully met become more cooperative and agreeable." It's good to remember, however, that every child is different and so are their personality traits.

3They Have Less Conflict


A question people frequently ask me is if I think teaching my son about empathy and how to manage his emotions is "all talk." I think it sinks in, and research seems to echo that sentiment. Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts, told Psychology Today that "research on attachment style parenting shows that securely attached adults have happier and less conflict-ridden lives." This makes sense, since learning how to handle conflict and emotions is part of attachment parenting.

Ad failed to load

4Their Individuality Remains Intact


Does forming parent-child attachment mean there's no room for self-hood? Dr. Lisa Firestone, an interpersonal psychology expert, told The Huffington Post that, "children who form a secure attachment grow up better able to maintain their unique sense of identity." In contrast to the caricature of overly dependent adults, it seems that experts have found that attachment parenting produces quite independent adults.

5They're Resilient


According to a study led by Dr. Yoo Rha Hong and Dr. Jae Sun Park attached children tend to become more resilient, show more self-reliance, and become competent adults. Again, research is showing that attachment parenting tends to create capable adults, rather than resulting in co-dependency.

Ad failed to load
Must Reads

6 Early Signs You're Going To Have A Short Labor, According To Experts

As far as I'm concerned, a short labor is right up there with winning the lottery in terms of lucky life events. (And when I was actually in labor, I would absolutely have traded a bucketful of lottery winnings for a speedier birth.) While some women…
By Kelly Mullen-McWilliams

Kids Will Love These TV Shows & Movies Coming To Netflix In March

You can always count on Netflix to keep it fresh: though there are already so many movies and shows to choose from, every month there's an influx of new content to keep your entire family entertained. As February enters its final weeks, it's time to …
By Megan Walsh

Here Are 10 Ways To Boost Your Baby's Immunity To The Flu

As I'm sure you've read in the thousands upon thousands of articles written about it this winter, the flu is spreading like wildfire and it's bad. Really bad. This strand of flu is the worst we've had in a very long time and it's the most widespread,…
By Abi Berwager Schreier

Khloé Kardashian Asked Twitter About Her Bump, & Moms Totally Delivered

Like her younger sister Kylie Jenner, Khloé Kardashian managed to keep most of her pregnancy a sort-of secret. But unlike Jenner, Kardashian chose to publicly announce her pregnancy several months before the baby's due date. While there's no wrong wa…
By Sophie Hirsh

21 Moms Share The Most Surprising Part About Having A C-Section

Honestly, I don't think we, as a culture, talk about C-sections nearly enough, especially considering so many mothers experience them. And because of a number of factors, the little we do talk about it always seems to be a familiar narrative: "It's n…
By Jamie Kenney

13 Yummy Instant Pot Recipes To Make Under 30 Minutes

An Instant Pot seems to be the must-have appliance in every kitchen these days. If you are anything like me and never knew the beauty of a Instant Pot, you are about to have your life changed. Basically, you put some ingredients into a pot, set the t…
By Kristin Manna

9 Things The First Six Months Of Motherhood Will Teach You About Your Baby

Personally, the first six months of motherhood was a mixed bag. I learned some harsh lessons about myself that made taking care of my baby seem overwhelming. For example, I was clueless, and no amount of research could help me feel like anything but …
By Steph Montgomery

11 Photos You *Must* Take During The Last Days Of Your Pregnancy

During my first pregnancy, I took a photo each week to document my growing belly. I stopped around 36 weeks, though. I hated how I looked in those pictures, and didn't think I'd want to relive those moments. I was wrong. My second pregnancy was a dum…
By Steph Montgomery

6 Red Flags To Definitely Look Out For After Your Baby Falls

The first time my infant son tried to take a few steps, he tumbled and bumped his head on the coffee table. My blood turned to ice in my veins and I froze. There truly isn't anything quite like the feeling a parent gets when their little one gets hur…
By Sarah Bunton

These 9 Instant Pot Recipes Will Make Even The Pickiest Eater Happy At The Table

Like any parent, I've had my share of parenting hits and misses, but one of my favorite "wins" is my daughter's diverse palate. I don't even know if I can take credit for it, but I would like to think I had something to do with her love for lentils, …
By Caroline Shannon-Karasik

Turns Out, Kim Kardashian's Favorite Mom Products Look A Lot Like Your Own Faves

Being a mom is really hard work, especially for the first few months, and Kim Kardashian West is no different in that regard. Now the mother of three, Kardashian says that there are a few products she just can't live without when it comes to raising …
By Abi Berwager Schreier

10 Things No One Tells You About Having A Baby In Your 30s

If you're like me, you evaluate the pros and cons of any major life decision. When my husband and I were considering starting a family, I thought about my career, education, and financial stability. I wanted to know how a pregnancy and childbirth wou…
By Steph Montgomery

Soda Might Hurt Your Fertility, Study Says, & Here's What You Can Do

Who doesn't love sugary drinks? I stopped drinking soda years ago, but I still love gulping down those fancy Starbucks coffee beverages. I don't have a big sweet tooth, but I am a sucker for sugar-sweetened beverages every now-and-then. Turns out, th…
By Annamarya Scaccia

5 Red Flags Your Toddler Isn't Eating Enough

Toddlers are notoriously picky eaters, at least in my experience. You offer mashed potatoes, they want french fries. You give them crackers, they scream for chips. It's frustrating, to be sure, but it's usually their way of vying for independence. It…
By Candace Ganger

35 Moms Share The Most Disgusting Things Their Husbands Do

I'm a human being who revels in challenges. I like when people present me with one, especially if they don't think I can meet or succeed it, and I like taking a challenge on, especially if it's unexpected. So when I aimed to uncover the most disgusti…
By Jamie Kenney

How Having Kids In Your 20s Affects You Later In Life

For parents, like myself, who had kids in their 20s, there are a number of questions that come to mind. When you're deciding what your future will look like, you'll likely consider what this means for your health, career, and more down the line. Thin…
By Tessa Shull

Study: Drinking Two Glasses Of Wine A Day Is Good For Your Mind — Here's Why

There’s more scientific proof that a daily drink or two isn't necessarily a bad thing and could have a place in an overall healthy lifestyle. A new study out of the University of Rochester Medical Center (URMC) in New York found that — in mice, at le…
By Tiffany Thomas

Research Says Eating Carbs Can Lead To A Healthy Pregnancy, So Bring On The Pasta

In the world of me, no food is better than bread. I know it's supposed to be pretty terrible for you, high in calories, low in protein, and full of that modern-day demon, gluten... but guys, it's really yummy. Especially warm out of the oven, when th…
By Jen McGuire

These Photos Of Prince George Then & Now Will Give You Serious Baby Fever

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are expecting their third child in Spring 2018. With all of the excitement surrounding the new baby, it's easy to forget all of the good times that have already passed. The couple's eldest is already well into the sc…
By Azure Hall

This Is, Hands Down, The *Grossest* Thing Babies Do Inside The Womb

Your baby's life in the womb may be safe and warm, but it's also kind of grody. Seriously, the whole process of growing into a human being includes more than a few icky moments along the way. But this is the grossest thing babies do inside the womb b…
By Lindsay E. Mack