Courtesy of Erin O'Keefe

Real Resolutions: Erin O. On Letting Go Of The Idea Of Perfection


January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.

Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.

Courtesy of Erin O'Keefe

Name: Erin O'Keefe

Age: 35

I think in this age of over-sharing and curating our lives on social media we are expected to be all things at all times. Perfection seems to be the norm now.

City and state: White Plains, New York

Occupation: Fashion editor/art director

How old are your kids?: 2 years old

What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: I think I am supposed to say: learn French, mediate, eat better. I think in this age of over-sharing and curating our lives on social media we are expected to be all things at all times. Perfection seems to be the norm now.

What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: My resolution this year is to live in the "now" and stop second-guessing myself. I want to move forward confidently and not have regrets.

What's the one resolution you won't make again?: I won’t resolve to drink vodka martinis again. They are gross.

What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: I’d like to start figure skating again, but since having my son I have stopped training. The sessions are early mornings and that’s reserved for spending time with my son.

What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgive yourself for?: I pretty much dropped my French tutoring. I forgive myself! Learning a new language is a struggle for me.

Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not?: I talk to my son about everything, but I don’t think he’s grasped the whole "resolution: thing. Even if he did I don’t think I’d want him worrying about "resolving: to do something. I want him to take one day at a time and be the best he can each day.

What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: This year, I want my son to be happy and be exposed to as many new and fun experiences as possible.