Why Does My Baby Hate Their Pacifier? There Are A Few Reasons

By
Share
Ad failed to load

I'd read enough Mommy 101 lit to know better than to let pacifiers do my parenting for me, but I wasn't expecting to have the opposite problem. It seemed like everyone else's baby was perfectly content sucking on a pacifier every once in awhile, but not mine. What's the deal? I would constantly wonder in frustration.Why does my baby hate their pacifier?

It turns out, there's more to pacifier magic than simply popping it in like a cork and expecting peace. Timing, as they say, is everything.

According to pediatrician Daniel Ganjian, MD in Santa Monica, “Pacifier aversion can occur if parents offer the pacifier too frequently and for the wrong cues." In an exclusive interview with Romper, Ganjian elaborates, "Babies cry for the following reasons: hunger, tiredness, dirty diaper, colic, wants parental interaction, too hot or cold, or other less frequent reasons. The pacifier should only be used for the tired or colicky child." He notes that if parents offer the pacifier repeatedly at other times, then the child will take a few sucks and realize that the pacifier has not solved the cause of their unhappiness. "As a result, the baby will learn that the pacifier does not work and will often refuse it. Some might develop an aversion and never take the pacifier again," Ganjian says.

Ad failed to load
GIPHY

If you're sure you've been offering the pacifier at the appropriate times, there are ways to train a newborn to suck a binky, says pediatric speech-language therapist and feeding specialist Melanie Potock, co-author of Raising a Happy Healthy Eater.

When introducing a pacifier, Potock tells Romper, the size and shape matters. Babies might refuse one that is too big or not the correct shape for their mouths. Potock recommends a "pencil" shaped nipple, one uniform narrow tube to allow the sides of the tongue to curl around it. Some babies with low tone will need an orthodontic style nipple, but for most, the pencil is the optimal shape for their developmental needs.

Ad failed to load

Now you're ready to practice, Potock says. "To encourage new babies to take a pacifier, hold your baby as if you are ready to feed her — tuck her arms into her sides, with her hands in the center of her chest. Tuck up her little knees and allow her feet to rest in the crook of your elbow as you hold her. This flexed position helps babies suck. Push your index finger into the center of the pacifier (in the hole behind the mouth guard), dip the paci into breast milk or formula, and touch baby’s lower lip," she says. Potock claims this will elicit the rooting reflex and your baby will open their mouth. "Gently insert the pacifier and using firm yet gentle pressure, stroke the pacifier down the central groove of baby’s tongue. You’ll see the tongue make a cup as the sides elevate. Pause to give her a chance to hug the pacifier with her tongue and her lips, perhaps sucking a few times."

It may take a few days, Potock says, but practice this method every few hours when baby is slightly drowsy and the odds are good that she'll come around before long. After all, practice makes perfect.

Ad failed to load
Must Reads

Umm, Toys "R" Us Has A BOGO 50 Percent Off Deal So You Better Stock Up

After the holidays, you were probably hoping that your kid's massive toy collection would keep him entertained for a little while, at least. But that was wishful thinking, wasn't it? Because now that a couple of months have passed, all those must-hav…
By Jacqueline Burt Cote

Turns Out, Kim Kardashian's Favorite Mom Products Look A Lot Like Your Own Faves

Being a mom is really hard work, especially for the first few months, and Kim Kardashian West is no different in that regard. Now the mother of three, Kardashian says that there are a few products she just can't live without when it comes to raising …
By Abi Berwager Schreier

These 9 Instant Pot Recipes Will Make Even The Pickiest Eater Happy At The Table

Like any parent, I've had my share of parenting hits and misses, but one of my favorite "wins" is my daughter's diverse palate. I don't even know if I can take credit for it, but I would like to think I had something to do with her love for lentils, …
By Caroline Shannon-Karasik

Soda Might Hurt Your Fertility, Study Says, & Here's What You Can Do

Who doesn't love sugary drinks? I stopped drinking soda years ago, but I still love gulping down those fancy Starbucks coffee beverages. I don't have a big sweet tooth, but I am a sucker for sugar-sweetened beverages every now-and-then. Turns out, th…
By Annamarya Scaccia

10 Things No One Tells You About Having A Baby In Your 30s

If you're like me, you evaluate the pros and cons of any major life decision. When my husband and I were considering starting a family, I thought about my career, education, and financial stability. I wanted to know how a pregnancy and childbirth wou…
By Steph Montgomery

This Woman Thought She Had An Eyelash Stuck In Her Eye. Then It Moved.

I'm not a person who is easily icked out. As a kid, I collected bugs and thought I was going to be an entomologist and asked Santa Claus for ant farms and nets to catch bees. I'm still super curious about anything that flies and crawls, which might s…
By Karen Fratti

A Hot Mess Mom's Guide To Surviving Winter

As I sit here at my home office in Connecticut, it's cold. Damn cold. Winter is a rough season in New England and it's even worse when you're a parent and have to manage cooped up, restless children. It's even worse when you're a hot mess as it is, u…
By Jamie Kenney

5 Red Flags Your Toddler Isn't Eating Enough

Toddlers are notoriously picky eaters, at least in my experience. You offer mashed potatoes, they want french fries. You give them crackers, they scream for chips. It's frustrating, to be sure, but it's usually their way of vying for independence. It…
By Candace Ganger

11 Ways Your Pregnancy Will Be Different If You Have A Boy Vs A Girl

If you've been pregnant before, you might start comparing your previous pregnancies to that of your current pregnancy. A lot of things can change from pregnancy to pregnancy, based on a whole host of different factors (including how well you remember…
By Lauren Schumacker

35 Moms Share The Most Disgusting Things Their Husbands Do

I'm a human being who revels in challenges. I like when people present me with one, especially if they don't think I can meet or succeed it, and I like taking a challenge on, especially if it's unexpected. So when I aimed to uncover the most disgusti…
By Jamie Kenney

How Having Kids In Your 20s Affects You Later In Life

For parents, like myself, who had kids in their 20s, there are a number of questions that come to mind. When you're deciding what your future will look like, you'll likely consider what this means for your health, career, and more down the line. Thin…
By Tessa Shull

8 Reasons I Let My Toddler Play Outside Unsupervised

I'm not a helicopter mom, but I'm not exactly a free-range parent either. I like to think of myself as safely ensconced somewhere in the middle. I insist on certain safety measures, like car seats and helmets. I prefer to keep my 2-year-old in my sig…
By Kimmie Fink

12 Moms Share How They Stay Healthy During Flu Season

Unfortunately, we're in the middle of the roughest flu seasons in recent memory. And we’re not totally out of the woods, either. People around the country are still getting the flu, and, sadly, some of them are having to be hospitalized due to flu-re…
By Priscilla Blossom

8 "Mistakes" I'm Glad I Made During My First Pregnancy

As an adult, I've learned you never really stop hating being told what to do. When I was pregnant I was getting instructions at every turn, from doctors, relatives, and complete strangers on the subway. I would nod and smile but then go about making …
By Liza Wyles

Study: Drinking Two Glasses Of Wine A Day Is Good For Your Mind — Here's Why

There’s more scientific proof that a daily drink or two isn't necessarily a bad thing and could have a place in an overall healthy lifestyle. A new study out of the University of Rochester Medical Center (URMC) in New York found that — in mice, at le…
By Tiffany Thomas

Research Says Eating Carbs Can Lead To A Healthy Pregnancy, So Bring On The Pasta

In the world of me, no food is better than bread. I know it's supposed to be pretty terrible for you, high in calories, low in protein, and full of that modern-day demon, gluten... but guys, it's really yummy. Especially warm out of the oven, when th…
By Jen McGuire

These Photos Of Prince George Then & Now Will Give You Serious Baby Fever

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are expecting their third child in Spring 2018. With all of the excitement surrounding the new baby, it's easy to forget all of the good times that have already passed. The couple's eldest is already well into the sc…
By Azure Hall

This Is, Hands Down, The *Grossest* Thing Babies Do Inside The Womb

Your baby's life in the womb may be safe and warm, but it's also kind of grody. Seriously, the whole process of growing into a human being includes more than a few icky moments along the way. But this is the grossest thing babies do inside the womb b…
By Lindsay E. Mack