Christie Drozdowski

American girl living in England writing about fashion, beauty, body image, and musings on being a first-time mother. You can find her traipsing around the coast eating fish and chips, thrifting in local consignment shops, or typing on her computer coming up with a smug bio that perfectly captures her preferred persona in under a hundred words. Her writing has also appeared on consciousmagazine.co, belovedmag.com, and in print (snob) in Cottage Hill Magazine.

What A Life Coach Can Tell Us About Preparing For The Baby Transition

When I was preparing to have my first child, I'd have never have thought of consulting a life coach about motherhood. Being a mom was a distant, mythical role — something dreamt of since I was a child, a title I thought I would come to deserve as I e…
By Christie Drozdowski

Moms, Stop Apologizing For Your "Mom Voice" On Social Media

Now that I've become a mother, I watch videos of children and babies in my social media feeds much more keenly than I did before. Those little everyday clips bring back the fond memories of when my daughter was at that stage or fill me with a happy e…
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How Mainstream Feminism Is Hurting Moms

There is no one kind of feminism, and my personal views have evolved from my naïve and inexperienced adolescence and the first experimental years of my womanhood. But at age 30, as I entered motherhood, I began to realize that mainstream feminism, es…
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Why I Refuse To Hide My Anger In Front Of My Daughter

My toddler daughter has seen me in quite a few momentary raging fits, and I have worried that I might have broken some magical veil in letting her see that side of me. But I've come to understand the importance of what she's seen instead of the guilt…
By Christie Drozdowski

If You Have Little Kids, You Don't Need A Moms' Group — You Need Older Mom Friends

Mom friends aren't always for everyone. I'll admit that if you didn't already know each other before, it can be hard to make and keep new mom friends. However, it might just be an older mom friend that you're looking for. I've come to value my older …
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Postpartum Rage Is A Real Thing & I Promise You're Not Alone

"I'm so angry right now, I want to slap you both!" I roared at my husband and my nearly 2-year-old daughter as I clenched my fists, then hit my thighs instead, growling as I stormed out of the room. Seconds later, I rushed back into the room. "How ca…
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I'm TTC A Second Child And I Feel Like I'm Late To The Party

I'm writing this piece six days late for my period — a frustrating place to be when you're trying to conceive (TTC). I use the term "late" loosely, because after having my first child (who is 2-and-a-half), my cycle has been super irregular. I've had…
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An Open Letter To My Nipple Shield For Saving My Boobs

You were there from the very beginning. I mean, within hours of meeting my new baby daughter, I met you as well. My nipples were terribly flat making it difficult to learn how to get my fresh, hungry babe to latch on and drink the colostrum that bega…
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Let's Be Real, Breastfeeding In Public Is Way Harder When You're Fat

I've always had big boobs. Breastfeeding made them both bigger and saggier at the same time. I mean, there's never been a more appropriate time — if I can get away with saying this — for them to be called "jugs" than when breastfeeding with bigger br…
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Can We All Agree Date Night Is A Classist Fantasy

Even before I had my daughter, I remember seeing posts on social media about the elusive but very important “date night.” My friends who had already started their families seemed to all be in agreement that making it a priority to go out with their p…
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My Breasts Were A No-Go Zone During Sex While I Was Nursing, & Yeah It's A Sacrifice

I love having my breasts touched during foreplay. I absolutely love having boobs. I also loved breast-feeding, but having sex with my husband during the months I was nursing meant I wouldn’t let him fondle one of my most-prized body parts in the proc…
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My Daughter Wasn’t Breathing & What My Husband Did In That Moment Made All The Difference

I will never forget the first glimpse I had of my daughter. A flash of a tiny face with us on the outside, then gone from sight. My baby wasn’t breathing after being delivered via c-section, so she was transferred to a table outside my vision. I was …
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This Joke We Make Right After Birth Is Actually Freakin' Gross, So Let’s Stop Making It

A few weeks before I gave birth to my first child, my mom told me a story. After she gave birth to me, her doctor joked with my dad about "putting in an extra stitch" for him while sewing her up. She had just delivered vaginally, and she knew the jok…
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I Dropped Everything & Moved To Europe With My 1-Year-Old

Last fall, I packed up my life, left my home state, and moved to Europe with my husband and 1-year-old. My husband is a European Union citizen, so we decided to take advantage of his ability to live and work in another EU country while he had the cha…
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I Hope My Daughter Never Loses Her Sense Of Adventure

My daughter is nearly 2 years old. She is a wild child, and I absolutely love it. Most kids her age are open to exploring and are entertained by the smallest things, but from seeing the way some of the other toddlers in her weekly play group seem to …
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Moms, The Car Seat-Shaming Needs To Stop

Earlier this week, Kim Kardashian West posted a photo of her son Saint in a car seat. Moms went haywire, posting thousands of comments criticizing her for putting her infant son in a forward-facing car seat, as opposed to a rear-facing one. I sympat…
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I Tried Tantric Sex For A Week

“Let’s look at this one,” I said, suggestively pulling a copy of The Kama Sutra from the shelf. My husband and I were at our favorite bookstore downtown, and we had just gotten married. As we flipped through the pages, we snickered and chuckled like …
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I Tried To See The World Through My Toddler's Eyes

Recently, I’ve been feeling like my relationship with my toddler daughter is missing something. Despite not knowing exactly what that was, I started thinking of ways I could bridge the gap. I felt I was lacking in my connection to her, so I decided I…
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Living 4,000 Miles From Family Is Hardest On My Baby

“Those are such good kisses!” I hear my parents say to my 18-month-old daughter as she kisses them through the phone screen. She’s video chatting, or should I call it video playing, with her grandparents who are over 4,000 miles away — a separation n…
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Bonding With My Toddler Is Really Hard For Me

“The toddlers are coming! Run!” the little girl shouted. I watched her climb down from the play equipment in the Chick-fil-A playground, presuming she was about 5 years old. She bustled toward the door while two fumbling toddlers followed behind her …
By Christie Drozdowski