Mary Sauer

Mary is a freelance writer living in the Midwest with her husband and two girls. With her free time she loves to read, cook, brush up on her MBTI knowledge, binge watch the Good Wife, or take a great nap.
Recent Articles

I Tried Not To Insult Myself For Five Days & It Was Actually Really Hard

When I was a kid, I was supposedly a ray of sunshine, quick to assume the best of others, believe things were going to turn out OK, and feel like I could kick ass at whatever I tried. As a parent, I guess you can only keep sprinkling your kid's world…
By Mary Sauer

This Joke About My Preschooler Having A “Boyfriend” Is Actually Really Screwed Up

Dear people who say my preschooler has a boyfriend, Cut it out. My daughter isn’t “crushing” on her classmate. She’s not trying to be "more than friends." She’s a social and affectionate preschooler and you're tainting a beautiful thing with your cr…
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Nobody Understands That When You’re Breastfeeding You’re Mentally On-Call 24/7

Breastfeeding has never come easy to me. My first child nursed for a few months, but my milk supply was constantly dropping since I worked outside of the home. My second breastfed for well over a year, but our story wasn't without its difficulties, e…
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Millennials Are Becoming Doulas In Droves. Here's Why.

Mary Pope, a 30-year-old mom of two in the Kansas City area, didn't know what a doula was when she had her first child, much less that she would soon become one herself. "I had a hard birth experience and struggled with postpartum depression," she sa…
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I'm Not A New Mom Anymore, But I Still Have Postpartum Anxiety

Recently, I started planning my youngest’s first birthday party. It is wild for me to think that, in less than a month, the two of us will have reached this huge milestone in our lives. For him, it means he'll achieve more independence. Walking and t…
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This One Type Of Mom-Shaming Could Actually Save Lives

Typically, I'm opposed to mom-shaming. Being a mom is freaking hard, and we’re all just trying to do our best to keep our kids alive and teach them to be decent human beings before we launch them into the world. Still, I can’t help but think there ar…
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I Basically Potty Trained My Child In One Day — Yes, Really.

Potty training my first child was kind of a nightmare. It wasn't her fault. My husband and I had no clue what we were doing. The thing about potty training is that you can read all the books you want, but you still have to know your kid and what the…
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Inside The World Of Umbilical Cord Art

Last year, Chrissy Teigen said in an interview that her daughter Luna's umbilical cord was being stored in a closet in their home. Although Teigen didn't share her reasons for holding onto the keepsake, the internet was quick to judge, deeming the pr…
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Why Being A 'Chill Mom' Is Complete BS

I expected to face some pressure when I first became a mom. I wasn’t surprised there was pressure to breastfeed, pressure to give birth without pain medication, or pressure to look like my old self weeks after I gave birth. What I didn’t expect was t…
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My Baby Had Torticollis, & I Had No Idea

I never expected my babies to have any complications after they were born. During each of my three pregnancies, I envisioned a simple childbirth. We'd spend two easy nights in the hospital, and then we'd seamlessly move back home. Those dreams of our…
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Supplementing Literally Saved Me

I have three kids, but I haven't exclusively breastfed any of them. My first child nursed with a lot of supplementation until six months, when she switched to formula completely. My second was able to breastfeed until she was 16 months old, but I nev…
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I Didn't Do Tummy Time, & My Baby Turned Out OK

When I got pregnant with my first baby, I intended to follow all of the rules. I exclusively slept on the left side of my body, counted kicks for a few minutes every day, and never ate deli meat (unless it was zapped in the microwave first). After my…
By Mary Sauer

I Tried The Montessori Parenting Method

Before I became a parent, I was familiar with the Montessori education method, which allows children to direct their education themselves and encourages learning and independence through hands-on activities. But it wasn't until I had three children a…
By Mary Sauer

Is The Pressure To Breastfeed Making Moms Depressed?

When Carlene Allen, 24, became pregnant with her second baby, she planned to do everything the "right" way, as she put it. She did her research, listening to podcasts on unmedicated childbirth and breastfeeding. After her daughter was born, she seeme…
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I Felt So Much Pressure To Become A Crunchy Mom

Before I became a mom, I had no idea that there were labels for different types of moms. I'd never heard of "crunchy" moms, or "silky" moms, or anything like that. In my mind, most moms were “do the best you can and pray you don't screw up your chil…
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The Skincare Routine That Saved My Life Postpartum

Since I gave birth to my third child nearly 9 months ago, I’ve had kind of a rough go of it. Transitioning to life as a mom of three hasn’t been easy for me, and honestly, most days I feel out of control. I bounce between nursing my baby and caring f…
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I'm So Glad My Mom Was In The Delivery Room With…

For as long as I can remember, my mom has been one of my closest friends. When I was a teenager, we fought occasionally, and I knew I was expected to follow her rules growing up. But since my dad wasn’t around much, she was the go-to parent for just …
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I Chose To Be A WAHM, But Now I Regret It

Ever since I learned I was pregnant with my first child, I wanted nothing more than to be home full-time. I wanted to be there when my daughter woke up from her naps. I wanted to see her hit every new milestone and experience every day of her little …
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What Is A "Bereavement Doula"?

In her 2013 essay, Holding the Space, doula Aimee Brill speaks of the crucial role that doulas play during childbirth. “In the moments when circumstances are snowballing and an undesirable outcome is knocking at the door, it is still possible to main…
By Mary Sauer

Breastsleeping My Newborn Saved Me

When you have a baby, you hear so much advice about getting plenty of sleep. There are methods, systems, and entire series of books dedicated to the art of teaching your baby to sleep so you can get some sleep, too. The advice is usually as follows: …
By Mary Sauer