Reaca Pearl

I am non-dual, non-binary, genderqueer person of AFAB experience. Exhausted yet proud mama to 3, I'm a human rights defender and lover of all things consensual. As a transformational psychotherapist, mindful-empowerment coach, inspired action-ist, writing helps me make sense of the world when I can, and helps me transform the world when I can't.

A Mom's Fool-Proof Guide To Surviving Being Sick When You Have Kids

Parents don't get sick days, but wouldn't it be nice to call in when you have a fever, aches, chills, and can't keep anything down? Then again, if you're anything like me, there's no one to call. So in lieu of actual rest and a babysitter you keep…
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Here's How Far Your Cervix Needs To Be Dilated Before You Can Have Your Baby

First time mothers-to-be have all sorts of things to freak out about. So, us childbirth veterans like to occasionally discuss the situations that can cause some anxiety. One of the questions I commonly hear, especially since sex education is sorely…
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Can Coconut Oil Help With PCOS? Experts Have The Answer

People suffering from polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) may, understandably, go to great, numerous lengths to find relief. But how do you know what is really going to provide comfort and what is just snake oil. Who knows unless we ask, right? So, can…
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9 Big Plans I Had For Maternity Leave That *Definitely* Didn't Happen

When I was pregnant, I fervently supported the formerly pregnant people who claimed they didn't have the time to get anything done during maternity leave. I guess, for some people, taking care of a newborn was just too much. But for me? Ha. No way.…
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How Accepting My Child's Gender Identity Helped Me Face My Own

My first child was assigned male at birth. Despite my partner and I's best attempts to let our child be who they were sans gender roles, we ended up pigeon-holing them into society's "male" box pretty quickly. We cut their hair, dressed them in dark…
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Let's Be Real: Is Hot Yoga Safe?

Yoga is a lot of things to a lot of people. As it gained popularity in the United States, it seemed that different yoga styles were popping up every other week. One thing I heard a lot about was "hot yoga." But as someone who avoids extreme heat…
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Here's How You Can *Actually* Speed Up Labor, According To Experts

The stages of pregnancy can be an incredible, albeit seemingly long journey. As a pregnant woman you can learn a boatload about yourself when you have to trudge through the physical and emotional changes that accompany growing another human being…
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Here's How Yoga Will Affect Your Vagina, According To Two Yoga Experts

It's no secret that yoga is extremely popular in the Unite States. It seems like more and more people are picking it up all the time. Ask any regular practitioner and you're likely to hear about the many ways yoga has impacted their body, mind, and…
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My Business Wouldn't Have Worked Without These 7 People

As a small business owner it is incredibly easy to feel like everything that makes or breaks my business is on my shoulders. I'm the sole member of my Limited Liability Corporation (LLC), established in 2010. As a psychotherapist,…
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8 Things Every Sexual Assault Survivor Wants People To Know When She Becomes A Mom

When I became a mom I shed a lot of identities that no longer served me. Some of these included partier, weekend-long-binge-TV-watcher, someone who sleeps in on the weekends, and, well, you get the idea. There are some identities I couldn't shed,…
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6 Passive Aggressive Things You'll Definitely Say To Your Own Mom When You're Pregnant

There's really something to that idea that we treat the ones we love the most, the worst. Though I strive to be more intentional in my communication with my loved ones, there are times when I'm woefully unsuccessful. Mother-daughter relationships…
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7 Things No One Says About Post-Breastfeeding Boobs, But I Will

If you've breastfed before, chances are you're well aware of what happens to your boobs when all is said and done. But if you're about to start your nursing journey, or you just don't have shamelessly honest (almost to a fault) people surrounding…
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7 Things Every Breastfeeding Mom Wants & Needs Her Partner To Know

Breastfeeding can be a struggle that takes weeks, and sometimes months, to master. In fact, it took me three whole children to finally get into the "it's no big deal" phase of breastfeeding. So if you have a partner, it's vital that they remain…
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Reddit Dads Reveal How They Really Feel About Being Working Parents

I don't know if, as a society, we'll ever get past this archaic idea that there is a "right way" and a "wrong way" for parents to work or stay at home. In a two-parent household where at least one parent is a man, that man is often expected to work.…
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Here's The Deal With That Whole "Lips Swelling During Pregnancy" Thing

A lot of people who've been pregnant can tell you that just about everything swells when you're growing a human inside your body. After a pregnant Beyoncé's May 2017 social media posts showed what some believed to be the benefit of probably…
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Here's What Experts Want You To Know If You're Pregnant & Want To Get A Tan

If you're anything like me, you've been slathering on SPF since you were a baby yourself. Nobody likes sunburns and skin cancer, right? And when everything else — from what you eat, to what you drive, to what you do in your free time — is questioned…
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What Every Pregnant Woman Needs To Know About Her Period

Whether or not it's the lack of comprehensive sex education that has been plaguing the United States in recent decades, or a continued sense of socially-contrived shame surrounding reproduction and women's bodies, one can't be sure. Either way, it's…
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11 Things Every Mom With PTSD Wants You To Know

I have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and while that doesn't mean I'm exactly the same as every other person who shares my diagnoses, it does mean I can understand them (and they can understand me) the way people without PTSD simply can't.…
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The Breastfeeding Moms Of Reddit Share Their Best Nursing Advice

I assume that everyone knows breastfeeding is difficult. Then again, I assume that based on hindsight, which we all know is 20/20. I'm pretty sure before I had my first child I had no idea what I was getting into. Luckily for moms who are currently…
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7 Things A Pregnant Woman Really Hears When You Tell Her She's "Just Hormonal"

I've been pregnant numerous times, and every time I've had plenty of people call me "hormonal." Unfortunately, it's pretty common to hear non-pregnant people talk about the hormones of pregnant women with reckless abandon and it makes us feel, well,…
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