Sabrina Joy Stevens

Thinker, writer, and occasional troublemaker raising another generation of righteous troublemakers with her best friend.

13 Breastfeeding Essentials That Saved My Boobs

Though breastfeeding is theoretically the most "natural" way to feed a baby, that doesn't mean there's no learning curve involved in getting started, or an absence of little tips, tricks, and products that can make your nursing life a helluva lot…
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Everything My Midwife Knew About My Home Birth

When I made the switch from my old OB-GYN to the midwives who would ultimately attend my son's birth, I requested all of my old medical records to give them. While scanning them after they finally arrived, I noticed that my blood pressure readings…
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8 Things I'm Glad I Didn't Know About Weaning

Well into my pretty enjoyable breastfeeding experience with my son, I decided that unless my feelings drastically changed, I'd let him self-wean. It seemed like the simplest way to do things, and I was in no hurry to give up one of my most useful…
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13 Signs You're Kicking Your Third Trimester's Ass

The third trimester of pregnancy is not the best, by a long shot. That honor belongs to the second trimester, when (if you're lucky) all the worst symptoms of pregnancy subside just as you become visibly pregnant, yet not so pregnant that you're…
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Labor & Delivery Taught Me To Love My Body

There was a point in the middle of the hardest part of my labor where I was hunched over in my shower, moaning and singing and swaying as hot water streamed all over my back, where I asked myself who was doing this to me. Who was making all of these…
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Mistakes Every Extended Breastfeeding Mom Makes

I'm not sure how moms in years past made it through the earliest days of breastfeeding before smartphones and Netflix. Those early nursing sessions take forever, so I got in the habit of watching things (or reading) to keep myself occupied. (Yes,…
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What I Wasn't Prepared For When My Baby Slept

Soon after my son's second birthday, I awoke in a panic around 3:40 in the morning. I glanced around, didn't see my son, then woke up my husband while frantically reaching for the baby monitor. "Is he OK? Where is he? Why hasn't he cried? Is he…
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Postpartum Moments That Prove You're Resilient AF

After the rush of giving birth wore off, I faced my first big challenge as a mom of a new human: breastfeeding the strongest, hangriest baby around. Apparently, my baby hadn't read any of the same stuff about breastfeeding that I had. He also didn't…
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12 Things RIE Moms Do That Every Mom Should Try

About 80 times a day, my toddler wants to do something that could potentially hurt or kill him. That means about 80 times a day I have to set a limit of some kind (“Hold hands with mama while we cross the street,” “I'm going to move this chair so…
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What You Teach Your Toddler When They Play Solo

Once my son got mobile, we spent a lot of time baby-proofing our house. We put everything not fit for a baby’s mouth in latched cabinets or moved them up higher, then hid all furniture he could climb. When we moved his toys into those vacant low…
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Authoritative Parenting Helped My Relationship

For all the (often, exasperated) talk about how "parents these days" are raising "kids these days" to be spoiled, unruly brats, many parents of our generation are actually succeeding at what researchers have found is the most effective parenting…
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Moments That Made Me Feel Like A Real Life Mom

For the longest time, being a mom — and being an actual adult, really — felt like something other people did, but not me. My parents were real parents, other people are real parents, but me? No. Even though I've known I wanted kids for pretty much…
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12 Signs You're Kicking The First Trimester's Ass

Even before I got the big fat positive (or BFP, as its known among online mom group aficionados) that let me know my son was on his way, I started noticing little things that made me think it was time to take another pregnancy test. Dressed to the…
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Things Every Pregnant Woman Needs Men To Know

Chances are, if you're reading this, you're either a pregnant woman who's rolled her eyes too many times today, or a cisgender man who wants to learn more about how to stay on the pregnant lady in his life’s good side (or needs to learn, in the case…
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Places Nursing Moms Should Be Proud To Feed In

Making meals for your family is one of the most loving things we can do, so making those meals with our own bodies is extra special. That's why, while I know that breastfeeding isn't the be-all end-all of early motherhood, I'm still really proud to…
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12 Things That Mean More To Me Postpartum

I always knew that having a baby would change my life, ‘cause of course it does. Being responsible for a whole other person is a huge responsibility, and completely alters the logistics of everyday life. Still, I was a bit surprised by how much…
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Non-Mom Friends Made My Home Birth Feel Empowering

As someone who decided to give birth at home, I'm used to a variety of reactions to my decision (though the most common one is some degree of total surprise). I don't blame them; the overwhelming majority of moms birth in hospitals, and most folks’…
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Giving Birth Actually Made My Friendships Stronger

There's no question that it's harder to keep your friendships (and other relationships) strong once you give birth. Babies pull your focus and energy like little else, and present all kinds of logistical challenges that make previously simple…
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Having Kids That Are Far Apart In Age Is The Best

After months of watching me chase down my 2-year-old son, it's started become a running (pun originally unintended, but now I'm keeping it) joke in my neighborhood that we all expect him to bring home a gold medal in sprinting some day. It's nice to…
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12 Postpartum Events Every Mom Secretly Celebrates

So by now, if you're a frequent reader of this site (or any other purveyors of quality mama thoughts), you're probably familiar with some hard truths about postpartum life. (If you aren't please Google the topic, otherwise you'll be totally misled…
By Sabrina Joy Stevens