Sa'iyda Shabazz

A graduate of Emerson College, she traded the stage for the page. This bi-coastal lady prefers the west coast but her heart will always be on the east coast. She is also a momma to a sweet little boy and a sweet scrappy dog.

I Treated The Kids I Nannied Like My Own, But There Was One Big Difference

I have worked as a nanny on and off for much of my life at this point. I started out just taking care of family, but after graduating college, it was one of the easiest jobs to find as the recession began to take victims. I always enjoyed taking…
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Being A Single Mom Is Kinda Great For This One Sneaky AF Reason

Maybe it’s an Aries thing, but I’ve always liked being in charge, which is how I came to be raising my son in my parents' house. I got pregnant unexpectedly and, since I was unemployed at the time, the birth of a child was a big financial strain on…
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I'm Weaning My 3-Year-Old, & I Finally Feel Free

When it came time to wean my son, I thought I would be sad. I thought I would yearn for that connection with him again. But now that I am actively weaning him, I don’t feel sad at all. I am immensely grateful for the time I spent breastfeeding him,…
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My Baby Would Only Sleep On His Tummy, & He Turned Out OK

For the first four weeks of his life, my son was a solid sleeper. He would be up approximately every two hours, and I could almost set my watch to his sleep schedule. But somewhere between four and six weeks, something changed. During the day, he…
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Nursing Aversion Taught Me The Single Most Important Thing About Breastfeeding

I used to love when my 3-year-old son climbed into my lap to nurse. I found it relaxing, and I was grateful for the few minutes of quiet and calm in our busy day. One day, however, he latched on and I felt like I was going to jump out of my skin. I…
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It's Hard To Be The Black Mom Of A Mixed Kid

When my son was born, he was pretty much as pale as his white dad. We were a bit surprised, but we also knew that's just how genetics work sometimes. What really surprised us, however, were how people responded to seeing his skin color. No one could…
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I Weaned My Son In 4 Days — Yes, Really

I've been nursing my son around the clock for almost four years — and I. Am. Exhausted. We co-sleep, and he still nurses several times during the night. (Honestly, I stopped counting how many times he nurses, because I know it would make me even…
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My Cross-Country Babymoon Was Awesome

When I was 6 months pregnant and living in Los Angeles, my ex suggested that we take a cross-country trip together. I wasn’t working at the time, and I wanted to go home to visit my family in New York. We decided that I'd go home to New York City…
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I'm A Single Mom, & Self Care Is Impossible

There's no doubt about the importance of self-care, especially if you’re a mother. You can’t take care of your family if you’re not taking care of yourself. But here’s the thing: doing things for yourself usually means you're able to set aside any…
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Why I Don't Use The Word "Crazy"

“Mommy, that’s crazy," my son told me recently. We were playing in his room, and I had moved one of his toys to a place where he didn't think it belonged. I paused. "Did he just say 'crazy'?" I asked myself. At the time, I didn't think anything of…
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I'll Admit It: I've Gotten Turned On During Breastfeeding

I have been nursing my son for almost 4 years. During that time, I have had just about every breastfeeding-related experience one could have. By my third year breastfeeding, I figured there was nothing else that could surprise me. But apparently, I…
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My 3-Year-Old Still Doesn't Sleep Through The Night, & That's OK

The clock on my phone shows me that it is 3:00 a.m. I have to be up for work in about five hours, and my son is finally starting to fall asleep. He's not having a particularly bad night — this is our version of normal. After I gave up on…
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The Leggings That Pulled Me Out Of My Style Rut

As an adult, I had a complicated relationship with leggings. I loved that they were easy to wear, but I didn’t love the fact that they exposed my entire body. Every time I wore them, I felt like my butt was showing and everyone was staring at me.…
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I Actually Slept When My Baby Slept

Before I gave birth to my son, I got a lot of advice. Most of it went in one ear and out the other, but the one that stuck with me the most was “sleep when the baby sleeps.” At first, it struck me as seriously unrealistic: when you have an infant…
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I'm Sick Of Breastfeeding My 3-Year-Old

“I want boobie," my 3-year-old demands as he climbs into my lap. “Why don’t I get you a snack?," I gently suggest. He nods and slides out of my arms. What I really want to say is, “Get the hell off of me and go do something with yourself.” But I…
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No, I Didn't Circumcise My Son. Here's Why.

Before I became a mom, whenever I thought about circumcision, I always thought about that Sex and the City episode where Charlotte dates the guy who isn’t circumcised. She's really weirded out by it, so she basically bullies the guy into getting…
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I Let My Fashion-Loving Toddler Dress Me

I was getting ready for a rare night out when my 3-year-old son stopped me. At first, I figured it was because he didn't want me to leave, but he had another item on his agenda. “No, Mommy, not the black shirt. Wear the white shirt.” he said,…
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No, We Don't Ever Go On Mommy-Son "Dates"

When my son was a little over 1 year old I posted a picture of him sitting in his stroller with a big smile. “Hot fudge sundae date…” I captioned the picture. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but as he got older, I realized that using the word…
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With DeVos In Power, I Won't Send My Son To School

My son is smart. Yes, I know I’m his mother and I’m biased, but he is smart. When he was 2 years old he pointed at a stop sign and said, “Mommy! Octagon!” I almost fell over. I knew that he watched videos with shapes on YouTube, but I had no idea he…
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TBH, Lazy Parenting Is The Best Thing For My Kid

“Mommy! Let's go down the slide!” my son calls to me from the jungle gym. I am sitting on the hard wooden bench watching my son run up the steps to the slide. It's not exactly comfortable, but I also have no desire to drag myself up and down the…
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