Steph Montgomery

Mom, stepmom, writer, runner, and activist. Steph loves science, politics, home improvement projects, and pie and hates cake, traditional gender roles, and the patriarchy.

10 Reasons Why I Wish My Family Didn't Have Pets

I've had pets my whole life. When I was a toddler, our family dog would sleep on my feet every night. My family also had a rat, numerous cats, and even a turtle. I loved animals so much that for the longest time I wanted to be veterinarian. I even br…
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13 Nelson Mandela Quotes To Celebrate Mandela Day

Every year, on July 18, International Nelson Mandela Day remembers and celebrates the life, leadership, and legacy of President Nelson Mandela. He was a revolutionary, the first Black president of South Africa, and winner of the Nobel Peace Prize in …
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9 Harsh Truths About Marriage After Having A Kid

When I met my first husband I had a plan: get married, have a nice, long, honeymoon period of at least five years, buy a house, and have two kids. For the most part, my plan panned out. Unfortunately, I also learned a few harsh truths about marriage …
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14 Moms Reveal The Moment They Realized They Were Pregnant

To my surprise, I knew I was pregnant before I held a positive pregnancy test in my hot little hands. My partner and I had been trying for only a few weeks, but I knew something was different. I went to the bathroom thinking my period had started, an…
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6 Misconceptions About Baby's First Bath New Parents Shouldn't Fall For

Before I had my first baby I didn't really think about the specifics of her first birth. A couple of hours after my daughter was born the nurse came in and asked if I wanted to bathe her, and I figured it must be something new moms did and went with …
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5 Signs Your Dog Is Dehydrated & Needs Some Water STAT

As any dog owner knows, dogs love to be outside in all kinds of weather. Unfortunately, when being outside means frolicking in the summer heat your dog might be at risk of becoming dehydrated, which can be dangerous and even deadly. There are importa…
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9 Ways My Partner Accidentally Made My Pregnancy Anxiety Worse

My partner was, for the most part, amazingly supportive during my pregnancy. He brought me pretty much any food I craved, tried to make me feel good about my changing body, and didn't get in the way of me calling the shots when it came to my health, …
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12 Things No One Will Tell You About Preparing For Childbirth, But I Will

When I found out I was pregnant I thought I knew exactly how things would go. I read my copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting, took a birth class, joined an online pregnancy group, and wrote an extensive birth plan. I’m not saying that all of …
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7 Signs Your Dog Is Overheated & Needs You To Act

As much fun as it is to enjoy the outdoors in the summertime, warm weather can be dangerous or even deadly for your dog. So if you plan to take your canine out and about with you when it's hot outside, you should definitely learn the signs your dog i…
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My Toddler Hated Their Younger Sibling At First & Didn't Think I'd Survive

Growing up, my sister and brother were my first and best friends. Yes, sometimes we fought like cats and dogs, but generally speaking we were like three peas in a pod. So when I got pregnant with my second child I hoped my kids would share the same b…
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10 Reasons Why Having A Newborn In The Summer Is The Best

To say I planned my first pregnancy is kind of an understatement. I actually made a pro/con list and, through careful analysis, determined when I should get pregnant so I could enjoy an early-summer delivery date. Because after careful research, all …
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10 Spouses Share The Sex Questions They Wish They'd Asked One Another Sooner

For me, learning how to talk about sex wasn't easy. In sex ed I learned about things like using condoms and getting tested for STDs, but no one told me how to bring sexual topics up with a partner, like what I wanted, or didn't want, in bed. So when …
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4 Differences Between Labor & Delivery, According To Experts

If you’re pregnant and getting ready to have your baby, taking a tour of your hospital's "Labor and Delivery" ward to find out more about what will happen on the big day isn't the worst idea. And since we're used to seeing the words "labor and delive…
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6 Differences Between Mars & Mercury Retrograde Every Stargazer Should Know

If you don't live under a rock, you've probably heard that Mars is in retrograde. But what does that actually mean? I've heard people talk about Mercury in retrograde as the root cause of their kids' bizarre behavior, or a particularly bad day at wor…
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Here's How The 2018 Mars Retrograde *Could* Impact Your Marriage

You might have heard that Mars is in retrograde again for the first time in two years. But what does it actually mean? While I don't entirely buy into the idea that the planets and stars run our lives, many people I know credit (and blame) their horo…
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The One Thing I Ignored That Could've Made Dating As A Single Mom Easier

After I became a single mom I started to worry I would be alone for the rest of my life. It's not just that dating as a single mom was hard, because at times it was pretty damn impossible to find the time, energy, and emotional where-with-all to date…
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The One Thing I Ignored That Could've Made Potty Training Easier

Potty Training: two words that can strike fear into the hearts of parents everywhere. I was terrified to potty train my oldest, and while I wish I could say my fears were unfounded it didn't take long to realize the ordeal deserved its reputation. It…
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12 Of The Hottest Things You Could Do For A Single Mom

When you think about single moms, you probably don't think about sex. It's too bad, really, because most of the single moms I know are sexy AF. And if a single mom has the time and energy to get some, the other person in the equation should consider …
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11 Creepy Things My OB-GYN Actually Said To Me

In my experience, the relationship you have with your OB-GYN ends up being rather intimate. This person will likely stick their hands in your vagina, examine your breasts, catch the human you expel from your body, and potentially sew up your abdomen …
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10 Reasons Being Pregnant In Summer Is The Worst

I've been pregnant three times and have three beautiful children to show for it. I've also been "lucky" enough to experience pregnancy during all four seasons of the year. For me, pregnancy isn't fun regardless — it's just nine months (give or take) …
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