Steph Montgomery

Mom, stepmom, writer, runner, and activist. Steph loves science, politics, home improvement projects, and pie and hates cake, traditional gender roles, and the patriarchy.

My Family Tried To Police My Thanksgiving Meal When I Was Pregnant

To be honest, I’ve never really been a fan of Thanksgiving. There’s always so much pressure to have a perfect holiday meal with your family, which, in my experience, culminates in at least one person losing their cool or leaving the table in tears.…
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Here's What Experts Have To Say About Headaches & Labor

For many moms-to-be, the last few weeks of pregnancy can be particularly stressful. While consistent contractions and your water breaking are obvious signs of labor, it's impossible not to analyze every twinge, pain, and symptom as a hint it's "go…
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How To Clear Your Toddler’s Congestion, According To Experts

As any parent can tell you, cold and flu season with a toddler generally means coping with at least one stuffy nose or case of the sniffles. Unfortunately, for toddler parents everywhere, finding safe and effective ways to clear your toddler’s…
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My Child's Food Allergies Make Thanksgiving A Nightmare

I've never been a huge fan of Thanksgiving. For me — an anxious vegetarian mom who hates football and fears the judgement of others — I think it's kind of the worst. It's not that I don't love my family, or enjoy spending time with them. I just…
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12 Moms Share The Most Awkward Place They Went Into Labor

My husband and I were watching a movie the first time I experienced labor. He wanted to head to the hospital immediately, but I made him stay so I could see how the film ended and at least finish my popcorn. He voiced his concern over the…
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I'm A Mom & I Just Can't Fake Being Excited For The Holidays

It seems like all, or at least most, of my friends on social media are over-the-moon excited for the holidays. They're asking people to post their favorite Thanksgiving recipes, they're sharing photos of their Insta-worthy Christmas decorations, and…
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9 Awful Things People Say To Plus-Size Moms

The other day I offered my sweet 6-year-old a homemade muffin, only to have him turn it down. He'd eat muffins exclusively if we let him, so I asked if he was feeling OK. He replied, "I shouldn't. My friend told me to lose weight." My son is 6. My…
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7 Dangerous Space Heater Mistakes To Avoid, According To Experts

As temperatures drop outside, many of us rely on portable space heaters to help keep our families toasty and warm. But experts warn that if you use them to heat your home there are certain tips and tricks you should know, especially if you want to…
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6 Ways To Deal When Your Baby Hasn't Dropped

When I was pregnant with my first I went days past my due date and, as you can imagine, I was frustrated. My daughter had dropped weeks prior, so every day it felt like I was carrying a bowling ball between my legs. But having your baby drop "early"…
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My Husband Watched My Baby Crown &, Honestly, It Brought Us Closer Together

Giving birth to my youngest child was an empowering, life-changing experience. Not just for me, either. When my husband watched our baby crown our relationship changed, and in ways I couldn't have possibly imagined. What is often touted as a "gross"…
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13 Kindergartners Share What They Wish Their Parents Knew About School

As I was coaxing my son out of bed this morning he whined, "But I don’t want to go to school." He says the same thing every morning, and it's usually him simply stalling. But today I asked him to tell me more. As a newly minted kindergartner, with…
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5 Signs Your Baby Needs To Sleep More Often, According To Experts

If you ask any new parent, they'll probably tell you that their little bundle of joy could use more sleep. I mean, babies aren't exactly known for sleeping well, and their parents are likely to suffer from at least a little sleep deprivation…
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5 LGBTQ Parents Share What The "Rainbow Wave" Means To Them & Their Families

Representation matters. It’s literally the foundation of our political system, and helps ensure equal protection of the law. The LGBTQ community, however, hasn't really been represented by those elected to serve the American public in office,…
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I Looked At My Post-Baby Vagina & OMG

As a first-time pregnant woman I was admittedly worried about how childbirth might damage my vagina. I wasn't concerned in a vain kind of way, but was concerned about the future of my sex life or how I would feel "down there." The idea of pushing a…
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13 Moms On The One Off-The-Wall Thing They Wish They'd Packed In Their "Go Bag"

As a soon-to-be first-time mom I wanted to be prepared as I could possibly be for childbirth. As a result, I totally over-packed my hospital bag. I didn’t end up using most of the items I thought would be super-important — a birthing ball, breast…
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7 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Grandparent, According To Experts

The relationships your kids have with their grandparents can be extremely especial and among the most important relationships in their young lives. Unfortunately, however, some grandparents aren't all that "grand" when it comes to how they treat…
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To Be Honest, I Should Have Become A Mom Sooner

Deciding if and when to have kids is as personal a decision as they come. When I was 26-years-old and newly married I agonized over when my husband and I should try to conceive. I wanted to make the "right" choice, and worried that if I made the…
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10 Reasons Having A Baby In The Winter Is The Worst

When I was pregnant I just knew I would be a badass, put-together new mom who ran half marathons, was never late, and undoubtably capable of conquering the world with a baby on her hip. As you can imagine, I was wrong. I learned so much about myself…
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I Wish People Would Stop Using The Phrase “Birth Rape”

As a sexual assault survivor, I find the idea that someone would use the word "rape" to describe anything other than sexual violence horrific. So when I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and found a meme calling for a new #MeToo movement for…
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9 Things You Should Just Let Your Parenting Partner Do

I hear "jokes" all of the time about dads being incompetent parents. From their inability to put diapers on properly to sending kids to school in mismatched clothes and letting them eat candy for breakfast, dads are described as nothing if not…
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