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15 Of Jennifer Lopez’s Best Motherhood Quotes

How are J. Lo’s twins, Max and Emme, 13 years old!?

by Casey Suglia
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My kids are the the ones who inspire me every day. They teach you so much. They’re constantly challenging you.

“You thought you were doing OK, but you’re rushing around with your devices and you’re working and they’re going to school and we’re all on our devices. We’re providing this awesome life for them, but at the same time, they need us. They need us in a different way.”

By nature, I am not tough, believe it or not. No. I am a lover. And with my kids I am even softer.

I love what I do. I love my kids and they come first, and everything else falls into place after that. I take it one day at a time, trying to do the best I can.

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“It can’t be work all the time and just stolen moments with the kids. This is where I have my most happiness, my most fun, and I always knew that. But we were kind of on a hamster wheel.”

I want them to be independent, good on their own, first. Like, whole people, what they have to contribute, what they have to offer, just as if they had nothing, just as the person they are.

“Their love and loving them and them coming into my life really made me reevaluate what I was doing with my life, and the relationships and the choices I was making in relationships sometimes, that only had to do with me, not the other person.”

I don’t want them to be in the business at a young age. I just don’t think they need that burden, that pressure. They should have a normal life — go to school, play, grow up.

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When I had my children and I felt that type of love... it made me understand there was a purity to love. That there is an unconditional love.

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“I think a lot about teaching my kids to work hard. I’ve learned something about kids — they don’t do what you say; they do what you do. I watched my parents.”

I used to give my friends who have kids advice all the time, and they would look at me like I had three heads. And then when I had you two, the minute I had you two, I literally apologized to all of my friends.

“We don’t have super set routines. I think we just try to do things that we can do together as a family. One of them is doing dances online, on their socials, we love when we do dances with them.”

Listen, I’m aging, just like every mom out there. You have to juggle the kids and the working and the taking care of yourself. It’s not an easy thing.

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“When you have children, you realize you can't plan anything. There's no Plan A, no Plan B. Life will happen and you will go with it.”

We’re still friends — and we’re parents. But it’s going to take time. It’s tough. But for the most part, I feel very proud of the way we’re handling it. We are doing the best we can for the kids.

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