All over Facebook, I’m seeing a lot of my friends posting memes about how much they hate “adulting.” And, yeah, I’ll give it to you, things like doing the dishes, paying bills, making sure you get your tires rotated are all boring and annoying aspects of adulting. But as the mother of two small children, sometimes I feel as though I could use a little more adulting in my life. Or at least, I could use an increase in adult activities and entertainment. The last movie I saw in theaters was 12 Years A Slave in 2013 (that was a really perky date night, let me tell you). If we go to a restaurant, it’s somewhere with crayons on the table to do the maze on the placemat. I spend a lot of time around cartoons and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and coloring. But here’s my little secret. Shhh. Come closer.
Here it is: Most of the time I really dig it. And I don’t even mean in the annoying “I just loooooooove staying home with my babies sooooooooomuuuuuuuuuch that they’re worth all the sacrifice” martyr way. I mean that I actually like cartoons and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and coloring. Because they’re fun. And I know I’m not alone.
I know lots of my fellow parents are in the same boat because we talk about it. We’ll discuss the fact that our children have been watching Brave every day for the past two months, and then we’ll start asking one another nuanced questions about the plot. At that point, we usually pull back a little bit and laugh like, “Haha! Oh #momlife, yo! What a silly, not-serious conversation we’re having about this cartoon.” But secretly you both know that we always cry when Merida and Elinor have that big fight, and then again at the end when she thinks her mom has been turned into a bear forever.
Of course, what we love most about these activities, fun as they are, is that they give us the opportunity to connect with our children on their level. And we like that! We love hanging out with our kids. In fact, here are some signs that perhaps you, too, love hanging out with your kids more than other adults: