Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday centered around patriarchal, oppressive relationship norms, so it can be hard to find feminist Valentine’s Day gifts. Finding a present that tells your feminist loved one that you adore them takes a little bit of creativity, but it’s totally possible — you just have to think outside the box.
Shopping in the weeks before Valentine’s Day may find you awash in sexism, pink, and chocolate (mmm, chocolate). If your special someone — be them long-term partner, casual fling, or good friend — isn’t into that kind of thing, it can be hard to find something that shows you appreciate them but doesn’t buy into antiquated stereotypes or offensive assumptions.
Generally, feminist gift shopping is about buying a gift for the person instead of the occasion. What do they like? What are they into? Instead of literally buying into tired stereotypes, find something that that aligns with your favorite person’s interests or aesthetic. Just because the holiday itself isn’t feminist doesn’t mean your gifts can’t be.
There are plenty of options for great gifts for feminist you love. They’re sure to love anything you buy them, if it comes from your heart, but here are some good places to start.