No couple ever wants to fight, but it's one of those things that will inevitably happen. After the honeymoon phase is over, some of those annoying habits may start to work your nerves a little more than when you first started dating. Chances are, the more time you spend together, the more opportunities there are for arguments. But even though you and your partner may not agree on everything, disagreements don't always have to escalate into arguments. To keep the peace and spread the love, try using some habits of couples who never fight and watch your relationship grow.
There are some couples who have cracked the code. But these love birds aren't just lucky. It takes work to maintain a relationship free of fighting. Although it might not come naturally to every couple, working on more love and less fighting is a worthy investment in your relationship. It's one of those things that takes practice and time to master, but the results will be so worth the effort.
If you and your SO want to cut back on disputes, but aren't sure where to start, take a look at these 11 habits of couples who never fight and see if any would work for you.
1. Give Compliments
It feels good to be noticed and appreciated, and telling your SO just how great they are may be a way to avoid arguing. As social worker Marcia Naomi Berger reported for Psych Central, "compliments set a positive tone for collaborative discussion," and helps to encourage you both to do nice things for each other more often.
2. Show Gratitude
It's easy to get caught up in all the negative things and annoying habits of your partner, but as Psychology Today suggested, you should focus more on what yours partner does right, and less on what they do wrong. It keeps your perspective positive and gives you reason to be thankful you are with them.
3. Be Supportive Of Free Time
When you love someone, you want to spend quality time with them. But spending time apart can be a cause of fights for even the happiest couples. As long as your partner is spending a healthy amount of time separate from you — whether it's a hobby or hanging with friends — being supportive of that space will eliminate that as a potential argument starter.
4. Extend Forgiveness
Forgiveness is one of those things that is easier said than done. But to keep a peaceful relationship, forgiveness needs to be something both partners extend to one another. According to Real Simple, the ability to forgive and forget helps make couples happier.
5. Show Affection
Touch is one of the most powerful communication tools we have as humans. Psychology Today reported that "couples who are satisfied with each other do tend to touch more." Giving you yet another reason to cuddle up with your love tonight.
6. Communicate Honestly
When you're feeling angry, it's easy to take low blows and throw some verbal daggers at your partner. But couples who don't fight have master the art or honest communication. Like Mind Body Green recommended, using patience, acceptance, and flexibility will lead to honest conversations. These key elements help to even the playing field and make both people feel heard.
7. Be Respectful
Disrespect is at the root of so many lover's quarrels. Feeling like you're needs are not important to your SO is heartbreaking, and can lead to a lot of damaged feelings. Keeping respect at the center of a relationship will foster an environment where both partners feel valued.
8. Seek Resolutions
Even the happiest of couples are going to disagree sometimes. But the difference in couples who fight and those who don't, are the non-fighters seek resolutions qucikly. Try using some pointers for conflict resolution that marriage expert Susan Heitler suggested to Reader's Digest, such as creating a win-win scenario.
9. Make Time For Each Other
With busy schedules and responsibilities, making time for your partner can be a challenge. But when you aren't connecting with your SO on a regular basis, it can leave a lot of room for miscommunication and misunderstandings, which are some usual suspects of fights. Try to have some meaningful time talking and doing things together to strengthen your bond and avoid conflict.
10. Let Go Of Grudges
Grudges are a slippery slope into resentment and anger — two things that don't bode well for keeping the peace in a relationship. Try to avoid falling into this trap with this advice from Mayo Clinic: grudges lead to negative feelings, while letting go of grudges makes way for positive thoughts and actions.
11. Give And Receive Trust
Trust is the foundation of any good relationship, and as Women's Health pointed out, trusting your partner makes you feel safe enough to get close to them and open your self up to a fulfilling relationship.