Losing a baby is something that stays with you forever. But most loss moms know that people aren't entirely comfortable talking about pregnancy or infant loss, especially when your baby was part of a multiple pregnancy and you brought some, but not all, of your babies home. One UK mom is trying to disrupt our culture of silence, though, and has given loss moms a new symbol to help people understand this very specific, devastating pain. And thanks to the following purple butterfly tattoos, that symbol can be carried with moms everywhere they go as away to honor the child they lost and the child they took home.
When Millie Smith lost one of her identical twin daughters, Skye, to anencephaly shortly after her birth in 2016, she wanted to find a way to let visitors to the hospital know that her surviving twin Callie had lost her sister. According to Today, she created the symbol of a purple butterfly, which started as a sticker and "cot card," to make sure other NICU parents knew she was a loss mom, even though one of her babies had survived. Since starting the Skye High Foundation to raise money for these stickers in 2016, Smith's purple butterflies has become a symbol for this unique group of loss parentsworldwide.
Now that imagery has become more than a sticker, adorning baby blankets for surviving twins produced by the Skye High Foundation, serving as a backdrop for unique family photos, and even the centerpiece for tattoos, all to help raise awareness about this specific form of infant loss. The following tattoos can help moms remember the babies they've lost, honor their surviving child or children, and bring awareness to a group of parents who need and deserve our understanding and support.