Every child deserves to be born into a loving, happy family. But in reality, far too many children grow up with unstable, destructive parents. And to make matters worse, not all types of mistreatment are obvious to outsiders. For instance, many people have grown up with parents who appear outwardly normal, but who are privately cruel and destructive. And, to be blunt, this confusing upbringing can continue to mess with your head for years after you've left the nest. That's why it's a smart idea to know the signs your mom was a toxic parent so you can make peace with your past and avoid replicating this behavior with your own children.
Part of what makes growing up with a toxic parent so difficult is the secrecy and sense of living a double-life. In many cases, the parent appears to be a normal and productive member of the community to outsiders. But in private, this persona drops and a cruel, cutting person emerges to bully and cut down the child. It doesn't take a doctorate in psychology to see that this kind of an upbringing can do serious damage to a kid. Sure, raising a child is hard work. But taking out old wounds on an impressionable kid is never appropriate. Read on to see whether any of these signs ring true for your own childhood.