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11 Things To Know About Receiving Blow Jobs

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As a young woman, growing up and learning about the wild world of sex, you're offered a world of advice on how to do things, how to discover your sexuality, how to please, and how to be pleased. These things are especially true when it comes to the world of blow jobs. And though it seems like you're inundated with an encyclopedia of advice on how to give a blow job, what about the other side? You hardly ever see articles about the etiquette of receiving blow jobs, and yes, there are things to know about receiving blow jobs, boys.

Although every person prefers different things when it comes to sex, there are a few universal rules to be aware of when it comes to blow jobs. Not everyone you meet is going to love giving a blow job, and not everyone you get a blow job from is going to want to give you another one. Just like any other act of sex, blow jobs should be discussed, consensual, and enjoyable for both parties involved. In order to make sure the giver is comfortable, and prepared for what's happening during said blowjob, take note of the things to know about receiving blow jobs below.

1. If You Want It, Ask For It

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Don't expect that you're going to receive a blow job just because you've got a sense of blow job entitlement. If you want it, you should ask for it. Your partner is not a mind reader, and nothing is worse than you looking down at your crotch and then back up at your partner, as though they should drop to their knees immediately.

2. The Head Shove Is Not Cute Or Sly

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Following up on the ask for what you want idea, shoving someone's head toward your crotch is not how you ask for a blow job. It's also not how you suggest a blow job. It's also not how you're going to get a blowjob. Whether your pants are still on, or you're in the middle of the act — just don't do it, OK?

3. It's OK To Give Up Control

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Of course there are certain things you like when it comes to oral sex, but in certain situations, it's okay to let your partner take control in the moment. You never know what they might teach you.

4. Be Vocal About What You Want

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So instead of shoving your partner around, trying asking for what you want. Deeper? Faster? Slower? Tell your partner. Use your words. Don't force them. Because there's nothing sexy about you jackhammering your penis anywhere, including your partner's mouth.

5. Don't Just Stand There

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Rather than standing there with your hands on your hips like you're some sort of sex god, get involved. Put your hands in your partner's hair, on their shoulders, on their hands, touch is a good thing. Eye contact is sexy. Use both, and you'll be making the experience more pleasurable for everyone involved. And whatever you do, please don't lay back with your hands behind your head like you're on a beach vacation.

6. Respond To What's Happening

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Do you like what's happening? Then respond to it. Although physically pushing someone to do something is a no go, sharing how good it feels, or suggesting your partner try something vocally is absolutely acceptable. In fact, it's encouraged. Hearing moans of pleasure helps the giver know they're doing alright down there.

7. Good Hygiene Will Improve Your Chances

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For the love of all things holy, be clean. It will exponentially increase your chances of a return visit to the land of blow jobs.

8. Give A Warning When You're Ready

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If there's anything worse than choking on semen, I haven't encountered it yet. Rather than exploding without warning, give your partner a heads up when you're about to come. It's not only polite, it'll prevent sputtering and stress.

9. Nobody Is Obligated To Swallow

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Speaking of your semen, your partner is not obligated to swallow. And if your partner doesn't want to swallow, it doesn't mean they dislike you. Spitting or swallowing is not an affront to your personal relationship. It's just not everyone's cup of tea, and nobody should be forced to swallow if they don't want to.

10. You Can Return The Favor

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Feel free to return the favor. It's not necessary, since sex (oral or otherwise) is not a bartering tool, but if your partner's down with oral, I bet they'd love it if you offered.

11. A Blow Job Is A Gift

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A blow job is not something you should expect, just because. A blow job is a gift. Cherish that gift. Be kind to your giver, and in turn, they will be kind to you.