Oh, the female orgasm: few things are so often thought about and so often misunderstood. Although the physical side of orgasm is clearly important, it's impossible to overlook the importance of a woman's state of mind when she's trying to climax. In fact, the thoughts that might be keeping you from having a better orgasm probably need to be banished from your brain immediately.
In order to orgasm, you need to be able to fully focus on the sensations of sex as they occur. But when you're overloaded with a thousand different things to do each day, it isn't always easy to make your brain shut off long enough to fully enjoy what's going on. Even when your body is in the bedroom, your brain may be a million miles away, fussing over tax returns and other not-sexy things.
And, on a more depressing note, your own negative body hang-ups could get in the way of your pleasure. Worrying about looking foolish in bed or whether your partner thinks highly of your body, can zap all of the joy out of sex. Feeling unsexy can lead to a sex life that's less than fulfilling: it's a nasty cycle.
Fortunately, you can become more aware of these intrusive thoughts and learn to kick them out of your brain when it's time to get down to business. This may be easier said than done. But in the meantime, you can practice, practice, practice until these intrusive thoughts leave you and your partner in peace.