It's been more than two years since my last serious relationship. Though I occasionally wish I could be with someone again, I'm also OK with taking my time to make sure I get the love I need. When I was in my last relationship, I'm sure I stayed in it a little longer then I was supposed by, and many other people do, too. When people choose to ignore the unusual signs that the love is gone, they usually end up getting hurt more than they would have if they'd known about the signs.
Though I really loved the guy I was previously with, there were signs that things weren't going down the right path toward the end of our run. From communication not being efficient to affection being non-existent, I often felt as if we were both fighting for something that seemed good.
Now that it's been awhile since I've been in a relationship, I've vowed to myself to pay better attention to the things that I ignored the last time. That way, when the time is up, I won't continue to try to force it to come together.
If you're in need of a few signs that let you know when it's time to let go, these 11 could be the things for you to go by.
1. You Feel Better When You're Not With Them
According to She Knows, if you feel better when you're alone, the love may be gone. You usually crave time spent with your partner, so when you start feeling more comfortable being alone, you should evaluate why you're feeling that way.
2. You Treat Them Like Your BFF
Though your partner should be like your best friend, Bustle noted that treating them like they're only your best friend could mean your love is gone. You could be holding on to your friendship and not your romantic relationship.
3. You're Just Putting Up With Them
Huffington Post noted that being with a person because you're familiar with them is not a sign you truly love someone. If that person has began to become annoying instead of enticing, it could cause us to be indecisive about where we stand in the relationship.
4. You Make Excuses For Not Spending Time Together
When you start making excuses for not spending time together, your love could be suffering. If things like PDA or going out together are becoming things that you try to get out of, it may be time to call it quits.
5. There's Discomfort In Saying "I Love You"
The Bolde noted that it's not reassuring if you've gotten uncomfortable saying "I love you." This could be because you don't feel the same level of love that they do for you.
6. You Look At Other People When You're Out
It's normal to catch a glimpse of another person when you're in a relationship. But when you've made it your point to look at other people when you're out, your love may not be there anymore.
7. You Feel Indifferent About Them Leaving You
Usually, you don't want to imagine life without your significant other if you're truly in love. If you're no longer feeling that way, picturing your life without that other person no longer becomes a big deal.
8. You're Not Communicating, And You Don't Care
Remember when you would smile every time the phone rang and you saw their name? Or even when you would get upset because they didn't text you during their lunch time? If your communication has died down and you don't care, your love could be fading away, too.
9. Your Priority Is Only Your Happiness Now
If you're in a loving relationship, you become selfless. Your significant other's feelings and interests are always your first thought. When the love begin to fade though, your priority becomes selfish again and you have no interest in their happiness.
10. You Speak Singularly When Discussing The Future
When you're dedicated to someone, the plans you make are inclusive of them. However, when the love is failing, you revert back to speaking of things that only revolve around you.
11. You're Forcing The Attraction
According to Bustle, when you're forcing the attraction or when it's no longer there, the love isn't either. You create reasons as to why you don't want to be affectionate and get annoyed when it's time to be intimate.