In a culture so obsessed with telling women what is beautiful, acceptable and normal, it's not surprising that self confidence is a huge road block. Fears of not measuring up or being judged for who they are just par for the course for most. Many women long to find ways to become more self confident, but are unsure of where to start. Though there is no magic formula to promise a huge boost of confidence, there are simple steps towards upping your self esteem that you can take today, or even better, right now.
Recent statistics from Dove's Self-Esteem Project state that by the age of 10, over 81 percent of girls and women in the U.S. aren't comfortable with their bodies. As a mom of two, this statistic is as horrifying as it is motivating. Raising daughters (and sons, for that matter) in a world that is dead set on telling them who to be and how to look isn't a task to be taken lightly. The good news is, change can begin with me. Right now. Learning how to be confident in my self, my abilities and my appearance is one of the most beneficial moves I can make not just for my daughters but for myself.
1. Take Charge Of Your Thoughts
Though it's easier said than done, changing your thought process can have a huge impact on your self-confidence. An article by the Mayo Clinic states that simply changing your thoughts to be more positive can do some pretty great things— reducing depression, increasing your lifespan, increased physical health and boosting your self-confidence are just a start.
2. Be Grateful
An article in Forbes noted that being thankful has many benefits on your overall health including improved self-esteem and less temptation to compare yourself to others.
3. Try Something That Scares You
A study by the Wall Street Journal found that people perform their best under a little bit of (healthy) anxiety. Getting outside your comfort zone— even if it's something as simple as talking to someone new or taking a different route to work— can give you a huge boost of confidence.
4. Choose Your Friends Wisely
One of the best things you can do for your self confidence is to surround yourself with people who reaffirm how awesome you are. Find people, or even just one person, who will cheer on your successes and boost your mood when you're feeling down.
5. Get Enough Rest
Studies show that people with sleep issues like insomnia report having lower self-esteem and optimism. Being sure that you're well rested will help you not feel rushed, less stressed and over all more confident.
6. Get Active
Getting active, whether it's a trip to the gym, a walk around your neighborhood or a quick yoga sesh in your living room can work wonders for your self confidence. Not only will you feel more awake and energized, your body will be healthier.
7. Practice Good Posture
An article by the Scientific American stated that simply standing taller can help you feel more powerful and confident.
8. Wear Clothes That Make You Feel Great
The Washington Post suggested that there may be a direct correlation between what you wear and how confident you feel. It makes sense— if you choose clothes you don't feel comfortable in, your natural impulse will be to withdraw. Conversely, if you choose outfits that accentuate your best features and make you feel like a rockstar, your more likely to act like it.
9. Crack Open A Book
Learning new things is a great way to boost your confidence. Read that book you've always wanted to or sign up for a class to learn a new skill.
10. Find Some Inspiration
Is there a celebrity you admire or maybe just a friend who exudes confidence? Take notes on their behavior and put them into action! Of course, always remember to be yourself, but drawing inspiration from someone you admire is a great way to get motivated.
11. Be Yourself
Ultimately, the only way to be confident is to be comfortable with who you are. Embrace your quirks. Love your flaws. And feel awesome.