11 Ways To Get Turned On When Your Day Is So Not Sexy

Your libido doesn't have an on/off button. Still, there are ways to get turned on when your day is so not sexy. You've been stuck in traffic, your boss belittled you at the office, you're fighting with your BFF, your dog used your new sofa as a toilet, and all you want is to crawl into bed and think about anything but sex. But, you have a date tonight, and it's date number three, which means, anything can happen... including a trip to O-Town with someone you're really into. It's tempting to cancel, but, why not channel your inner temptress instead?

Or let's say you don't have a date, but you want to erase the misery that was the last 12 hours. What do you do? Turn yourself on, baby. Certified sex expert Ian Kerner told Woman's Day, sex is a perfect way to cap a bad day. But, before you jump between the sheets, indulge in some self-care so you can really cut loose and enjoy yourself while doing it. "In order for women to relax into arousal and experience orgasm, the parts of their brain that associate with outside stressors must deactivate during sex," Kerner said. So here are some things you can do not just to turn that bad day around, but to turn yourself on.



Exercise can cure just about anything in my book. But according to to Health, exercise gets the blood flowing so your bad day is reduced to mere memory and you can focus on pleasure. Plus, I feel at my sexiest after my post-workout shower, naked and proud of what my body can do.



There's no better way to get in the mood, then to get down to business with yourself. According to Glamour, pleasure begins in the brain, so start fantasizing about all the wild things you've done. Bad day? What bad day?


Watch Foreplay-Focused Feminist Porn

Porn isn't just for pervs, lots of women Cosmopolitan noted, like Erika Lust are involved with making feminist porn for women that seeks solely to turn them on. Go ahead and Google her. You can thank me later.


Watch Nicki Minaj's 'Anaconda' Video

Now practice her moves, perhaps combining items one, two, and three on this list.


Take A Hot Shower In The Dark

From the safety of your bathroom, you can pretend you're anywhere in the world, as your sh*tty day evaporates into steam... literally.


Have A Glass Of Wine, But Only One

Registered dietician, Elizabeth Somner told Women's Day that one glass of red wine increases sexual desire. But too many glasses of wine just makes you fall asleep, worse yet, with a headache.


Apply Some False Eyelashes

For some instant Kardashian glamour, get yourself a pair of falsies, and viola! You're so sexy. Applying false eyelashes has never been easier, or, you can pay some beauty stores to have a technician apply them for you.


Meditate With Essential Oils

Not only can you escape the world and leave your bad day behind you, if you meditate with lavender essential oil, known to boost your sex drive, according to Self, then you get a two-for-one deal. Sweet.


Eat Black Licorice

You don't want to drown your crappy day with sugar, but, according to Health, there are some aphrodisiac properties to black licorice, making it a real feel-good snack.


Read Erotic Fiction

Delta of Venus by Anaïs Nin is full of steamy scenes to help you escape reality and enjoy yourself. ELLE recommends reading erotica to put you in the mood. Well, duh.


Watch Beyoncé's 'Partition' Explicit Version Video

Watching Queen Bey get herself in the mood hits all the right spots. And if this video doesn't get you in the mood, you should throw in the towel and call it a day.