Confession: I’m not an expert on weaning because, um, I’ve never actually done it. However, I think I can confidently claim to be somewhat of an authority on thinking about weaning because I’ve been doing that for almost two years now. Pretty much since my son’s first days at home, before I even got good at it, I’ve been debating about how and when to stop breastfeeding. There are emotional stages every breastfeeding mom goes through when considering weaning, and I've (for better or worse) become familiar with damn near all of them.
When I first started breastfeeding, the inevitable decision to stop was, I thought, going to rest solely on my son. I was determined to go as long as possible for him. Now that I've been breastfeeding for, well a long time, I've been thinking (rather frequently) how I actually get off this ride. I've never weaned before, my son has obviously never weaned before, so exactly how do I go about this process and, perhaps more importantly, are the emotions I'm feeling when I think about weaning, normal?
To be fair, we’re only down to one feeding a day and it’s happens at a pretty regular part of our routine so if you twist my arm, I can admit that I do have a few ideas how to proceed. But I’m not sure I’m ready. I think he would be, if I tried, but I’m not sure I want to. But maybe that means I should? Isn't it more about him? Motherhood is so hard, you guys. If only someone had warned me! Alas, let’s dig a little deeper into the mental gymnastics that occur when a breastfeeding mom contemplates weaning: