Being a stay-at-home mom means sacrificing yourself to the child gods almost every minute of every day. Honestly, there isn't much left of me at the end of every day. It's taxing, draining, and though ultimately rewarding, staying home with your children is just, well, a lot. I've been a working mom, too, and that's a whole other conversation with a whole other set of stressors. Still, some of the reasons a stay-at-home mom isn't going to call you back has a lot to do with stress, and while they might be weird, confusing, and oftentimes ludicrous to any outsider who can't say "I totally get that," it's so damn valid it hurts.
As a mom who stays at home with her children, I often get the question, "What do you do all day" from those who've never experienced life as a stay-at-home mom. While I want to empathize with their naivety, it's really freakin' hard. The easier question to pose would be, "What don't you do all day?" From chef to maid to psychologist to lawn maintenance, I've fulfilled every role possible. I've truly been the CEO of our family (so good luck replacing me) with next to no kudos, aside from the occasional Mother's Day celebration.
Before I worked from home, I had a job at a running store, and before that I was purely a stay-at-home mom with no supplemental income. I've done it all, been it all, seen and, of course, heard it all. Of the people who call me on the phone most, the ones who still don't get how I fill my time make me feel the worst. I'm so sorry I missed your call, and I apologize in advance on not returning your call, but some days there's no time left to spare.
Here's the thing: I'm busy. Like, really damn busy, Where it might seem like I have all the time in the world to make fun calls all day, I'm actually picking peanut butter off my socks from an earlier incident as I type this very sentence. There are no "free" minutes to chat "for a few," nor do I prefer to spend any rare "free" minutes holding the receiver to my ear while you vent about the news or random musings about what the hell ever. I don't want to be rude, but I'll call when I call and that's that. Here's some other reasons a stay-at-home mom probably isn't going to call you back today. Well, unless you're a rep or congressmen — then I'd like to have a word.