15 Ways To Get Exactly What You Want During Oral Sex
byJill Di Donato
Not all women are into receiving oral sex. Although this fact surprises me, I wonder if these women might not be aware of the ways to get exactly what you want during oral sex. After all, the adage "ask and you shall receive" is particularly insightful when it comes to getting what you want during oral. Though there's certainly nothing wrong with not liking oral sex, if you don't like it because you don't know how to get what you want, then you need to know you can get it, girl.
Consider what might be making you tense when receiving oral. Psychologist Dr. Cheryl Fraser told Best Health that in her practice, she doesn't find it uncommon for "otherwise sexually well-adjusted women who report feeling anxiety and shame when receiving oral sex." A lot of this has to do with a mixture of social and psychological pressure that people internalize when it comes to their sexuality. Although this seems like a dilemma involving a melange of intimacy issues and sexual prowess, it's easily remedied by figuring out what turns you on. Yeah, it's really that simple. So before you make up your mind that oral isn't for you, try the following and see if you can get into it, because I sure do.
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Forget What Your Ex Did
Women's Health made the point that during intimate acts like oral, you can't help compare your ex to your current lover. Although this is common, the article noted it wasn't particularly beneficial to getting you off. Instead, focus on the sex you're having now.
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Put On Some Sexy Music
If the lyrics don't inspire some kink, then at the very least, music can help you unwind and get into the moment. A study published in The Journal of Music Therapy suggested that music you like will help you relax and when you're calm, cool and collected, you're more likely to get what you want during oral.
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Reward Good Oral
Finally, when you receive good oral, be sure to reward your partner in order to reinforce the technique. Never underestimate the power of praise to get you what you want in bed. Who doesn't like a reward for a job well done?