Parenting isn't a spectator sport. Raising a child takes work — both physical and mental. In today's world, it's easy to be overwhelmed with the amount of challenges children have to face. From bullies, to body shaming, to stereotypes, kids certainly don't have it easy. But as parents, it's our job to find
ways to raise a brave child, especially in a society that doesn't do them many favors.
There's no doubt that every child is different; some are naturally more brave than others. My 2-year-old, for example, tends to be hesitant to be away from me or try new things, while my 10-month-old could care less if I'm within shouting distance from her. Age and personality have a lot to do with bravery, but there are countless ways that we as parents can teach even the clingiest of kids to be a little bit more independent and confident.
Whether your child is two or twelve, it's not too late to start instilling a sense of self-confidence and bravery in them. Kids are naturally born with a sense of adventure and curiosity and it's our responsibility to them to show them how to wield it in a world that can be scary.
1 Let Them Decide
Choice is a huge part in raising an independent child. You can't force bravery. If your child is nervous to jump in to a new friend group, give them time to decide whether or not they're ready on their own. It will create a positive association with new-ness, instead of a negative one.
2 Don't Hover
An article from Kids Health notes the importance of
giving kids "the opportunity to try something new, make mistakes, and learn from them." Obviously, supervision is still necessary, but letting your child play on the playground without you or giving them the ingredients to make a sandwich without jumping in to clean up the mess, for example, will give them confidence that they can do things on their own. 3 Let Them Explore
Similarly, letting your child explore not only new places, but new ideas and ways of thinking will teach them how to make decisions for themselves.
4 Lead By Example
You are ultimately your child's biggest role model. Try new things in your own life. Show them that stepping outside your comfort zone is healthy.
6 Read Them Inspiring Books
Books are some of the greatest tools for teaching kids. Integrate some
bravery-themed books into their bedtime routines, allowing them to soak in the confidence boost. 7 Teach Them To Stand Up For Themselves
"It takes bravery to
stand up for what you know is right when everyone around you isn't taking the high road," Robin Westen wrote in Parents. Teach your child to be confident in who they are and to stand up for right and wrong from a young age. The pattern will continue as they get older. 8 Use Brave Language
Incorporate empowering language throughout your day by encouraging your child when they excel and telling them it's okay to fail.
9 Mix In New With The Familiar
Kids do better with gradual change. Even something as small as introducing a new food along with one of their favorites can encourage them to try new things.
10 Value Their Feelings
Showing your child that you
value and acknowledge their feelings, even when they're not feeling particularly brave, will establish you as a safe place and teach them self-control and self-confidence. 11 Remind Them It's OK To Be Scared
If your child is nervous to try new things, help them acknowledge how they're feeling. Teach them that part of being brave is trying things even when we don't feel like it.
12 Let Them Fail
As a parent, it can be difficult to
watch our children fail, but its a crucial part of good parenting, explains an article from Empowering Parents. Be it something as simple as a scraped knee or a failed math test; it's tempting to save them the pain of failure by doing hard things for them. Ultimately, though, it discourages independence. 13 Praise Them For Little Things
To help counteract the pain of failing, praise your child for excelling in small ways. Did they finish all of their dinner? Tell them you appreciate it. Did they share a toy with a friend? Tell them they did the right thing. Positive reinforcement goes a long way.
14 Socialize Them
If your child tends to be clingy or nervous when you leave, let them practice by introducing them to new people. Let them know that you're not going to leave but that it is okay to make new friends.
15 Give Them Time
Bravery won't happen overnight. Be patient with your child. The most important thing you can do is be there for them. Even when they're not feeling brave at all, knowing that they have you rooting for them will give them courage in due time.