The mother daughter bond is intense and wonderful, and at times overwhelming and confusing– for both of you. The time you spend together and the effort you put into listening to and laughing with one another creates an unbreakable bond that can survive tough times, miscommunications, hurt feelings, the teenage years. That's what it's important to plan mother daughter bonding activities — specific time set aside just for the two of you that will stop the freeway speed traffic of life and slow things down enough so you can really listen to each other, get to know each other, enjoy each other's company.
These activities can be as simple as a dance party or as planned as a date, but taking that time can be the difference between a really strong relationship, and one where the love is there, but the closeness is missing: that closeness is very important when it comes to a mother-daughter dynamic. The closer you are, the easier it is to work out problems as they arise, and the less likely it is that those problems will become an ongoing issue that comes between the two of you.
Bonding can be serious – deep discussion about literature– or outrageous– twerking in the living room. Either way, it's how you grow together and stay close as your daughter changes throughout her childhood and teen years. Get your groove on, and try out some of these bonding activities for mothers and daughters.
I have dance parties with my daughters when they are toddlers and continue to have them when they are teenagers. We take turns picking songs and doing ridiculous dance moves that lead to a pee your pants laughter.
2Long Walks And Hikes
A long hike is one of the best ways to connect with a teenager; stretches of silence where you only hear footsteps and feel wind on your cheeks. Walking opens up a room for shared secrets or shared hilarity– I'll take either with my girls!
My 5-year-old and I recently had a date where we went to Starbucks and brought her memory game, which we played over my coffee and her hot chocolate. Afterward, we walked, and then went into Target and browsed the toy aisles before reading a few books. It was as simple as it gets, and magical.
4Learn About Feminists Together
5Create Art Together
The annoyance and mess of storing are supplies is worth the creativity and relaxation that comes out of it. I sit with both my daughters and doodle, create thank you cards and elaborate lists. It's a great way to unwind our minds together and collaborate.
6Read The Same Book Or Watch The Same Show
After my daughter finishes a book, I will sometimes read it, too, and then we have talks about the plot, the characters, the things that annoyed or delighted us. Same goes for watching a show together.
7Enjoy A Mani-Pedi
Giving each other a man-pedi while at home, listening to some great music and talking, is one of the easiest and most cheerful ways to hang with your girl.
8Make A Collage About Your Relationship
Take inside jokes, trips you've taken, even fights you've been in and make a giant collage together that represents your relationship.
Going on a run has strangely elicited some of the most hilarious moments between my daughter and I. Maybe it's the endorphins?
10Take A Class Together
Find a hobby or activity that interests you both and dedicate to taking a class on it. Not only will it guarantee you time together each week, but it will give you a special skill to share.
Work at a soup kitchen, visit nursing homes, sign up for the local library: whatever it is, do it together.
12Go Thrift Shopping
For a few years I often took my daughter to our local thrift stores, and we had a great time. We'd both relax, browse for a good find, and then get lunch afterward.
13Take Photos Of Each Other
Be ridiculous and have fun. Simple!
14Go To The Movies
This activity forces you to put away technology and get lost in another world. And afterwards, you two can talk about whether you loved or loathed the film.
15Cook A Meal
Or bake a dessert. Either wait, this activity allows you to discover new recipes, learn about each other's tastes, and eat.
16Explore Your Town
Find a new trail you've never hiked or drive around a new area of town. Wandering through parts of your hometown together that you haven't before, coffee or hot chocolates in hand, creates beautiful memories.