Parents want to protect their children from harm, danger, and disappointment. They want them to become successful adults without experiencing the negative aspects of growing up. They want to shield them from embarrassment, conflict, failure, and exclusion. But how can you tell if you are protecting or actually coddling your toddler?
Psychologist Erik Fisher, author of The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict, told Cincinnati Family Magazine, “Coddling is when parents predict the failure of a child. It is a protective act.” The natural protection instinct a parent has toward a newborn can turn into a compulsion to safeguard them from anything perilous and all of life's letdowns. But, this actually hinders your child's future.
In her book You're Perfect ... and Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth about Spoiling Your Kids, former legal prosecutor Loni Coombs wrote that coddled children "turn into adults who have more health issues, are more susceptible to drug and alcohol addictions, have more difficulty maintaining relationships and financial stability, and are more likely to run into trouble with the law." Coddling can protect your child from temporary dangers, but may set your child up for failure in the long term.
Worried you're holding on too tight to your little one? Or maybe not aware of it? The following are some clues you may be coddling your toddler.