You've been there, right? You're between the sheets — with a partner or with a toy — and you just can't seem to get there. No matter how hard you try, the elusive climax just seems to escape you. Yeah, it happens to everyone, but it happens to some more often than others. It might even get to the point where you get embarrassed that you can't seem to orgasm, no matter how hard you (and your partner) try. But you shouldn't be embarrassed, as there are so many reasons not to be embarrassed about not being able to orgasm.
An orgasm is a personal moment. Much like your sexual appetite, orgasms don't happen the same way for everyone. Some people even enjoy holding out from an orgasm. The bottom line is, whether or not you're having an orgasm, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. Everyone works at their own pace. And not being able to orgasm? Sometimes it's more the psychological. Anorgasmia is a scientific explanation for those who have never been able to orgasm, or who have always had trouble with achieving climax, according to Mayo Clinic. If you find yourself in this position, there are plenty of things you can do to take matters into your own hands (literally), and there are plenty of anorgasmia treatment resources available for you. Fear not, ladies. You're not alone, and there's no reason to be embarrassed.