Surviving a trauma can leave a lasting affect on the victim, as well as their loved ones, long after the ordeal ends. Whether your trauma is emotional or physical, you may find yourself dealing with a slew of emotions, including sadness, guilt, and anger. As you move through the healing process, it may take a while to feel completely comfortable with being intimate again — even if you are involved in an otherwise healthy, long-term relationship. By having a clear understanding of some of the things no one tells you about intimacy after a trauma, however, you can help yourself heal.
No matter how long ago you experienced your trauma, you should know that it can have an impact on all of your romantic relationships going forward. As Good Therapy mentioned, trauma survivors often experience a decrease in relationship satisfaction as well as difficulty with intimacy and communication. Understanding that your partner may need help determining the best way to be present for you, that you may not have the energy for intimacy, and that being intimate may even trigger memories of trauma from your childhood can help you put things in perspective and give you permission to allow yourself the time you need to heal properly.