"Pediatricians should never ignore the children in the room," Dr. Sharon Somekh, a pediatrician, tells Romper during a recent interview. "They should also acknowledge children who are there but aren't scheduled to be seen." Whether your child is shy or the room is full of their siblings, your little one's doctor should never disregard their presence. "Although much of the focus when seeing young children is on the discussion with the parents, both parents and children appreciate when a pediatrician acknowledges the children first," Somekh further explains. If you feel like your child is invisible during their exam, then you should bring this poor practice to the attention of the pediatrician.

Is having children for everyone? No, of course not. But if your child's pediatrician lets it be known that they are not a "kid person" — like the way you may not be a "dog person" — then you'll be interested to learn what one expert has to say on the matter.

"Being warm and friendly is a must when working with children," Dr. James W. Brown, a family medicine physician, tells Romper. "It doesn't matter if you're a 'kid person' or not, proper care and attention should be given to every patient who comes into the exam room." For instance, I've experienced this with doctors who aren't specifically pediatricians, but still see children as part of their family practice. Kids are people, too, and your child's pediatrician should treat them as such during an exam.

"Pediatricians should never conduct an examination without consent," pediatrician Dr. Faisal Abdul Karim Malim tells Romper. "Examination without explaining to the parents what you are doing and why you are doing it," is also a major no-no. Personally, I believe it's never too young to teach your children about bodily autonomy and that no one is allowed to touch them without their permission — not even doctors. It can be a tough conversation to have, but I don't regret at all telling my son that he is allowed to say, "stop," or, "no," at any point during his doctor's visit. In my experience, most pediatricians actually appreciate that a child has such a strong sense of self and consent.

"Pediatricians should never use excessive force to examine a child," Somekh says. "They should use the parents' assistance whenever possible, but using excessive force to examine a child — even on non-sensitive areas — will make the child scared and cause the parents to lose trust in the doctor." I know my son hates having to sit still during a check-up, but even the most difficult child should never be aggressively touched at the doctor's office. You are your child's best advocate and you have every right to speak up or step in if a pediatrician acts this way.

It doesn't matter if it's a phase or something more serious — a pediatrician should never brush off your child's fears, preferences, or idiosyncrasies, and its the parent's job to voice said triggers, especially if the child is not old enough to communicate it themselves. During the exam, "parents should communicate if the child has a phobia, like, 'Johnny will freak if you touch his hair'," pediatrician Dr. Anne Francis told Parents. Children with sensory issues, for instance, cannot afford to have a pediatrician who ignores their limits.

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