Before I had children, I embraced my free-spirited self with a wild, sometimes reckless abandon. I married straight out of high school so when that relationship failed four years later, I reinvented myself into all the things I thought I should be. At the time, I thought I couldn't get any better. I was both naive and unrealistic to assume my "best" days where then, because I know all the undeniable reasons why I look better after having kids, as opposed to those pre-baby days. Sure, there was less stress before and yeah, I had more free time, but I lacked so many things that have changed me into the strong confident woman I am today — things I wouldn't have found if I hadn't become a mother.
I don't exactly know when it happened exactly — this boost in self worth. Maybe it was in small bursts, or maybe all at once and sometime after the postpartum waned. Back then, before kids, I didn't always see or appreciate my beauty. Insecurity influenced my every decision and I never felt like my genuine self would be enough for anyone else. I could blame part of that on age, part on not knowing all that would lie ahead, and part on it being absolutely impossible for me to know all the ways I'd grow over the coming years. Still, I've not only come full circle but I've owned the circle. I'm the same woman graduating from high school in so many ways and, yet, so extremely different. Having children helped me realize the force I am and the impact I could have on the world around me.
If you aren't sure of your place once you've had children, give it time. Soon enough, you'll see all the things everyone else already has. Here are some of the reasons I'm living my best life post-kids (and still getting more awesome by the nano-second).