Remember friendship? It’s that important thing that keeps getting pushed off your list of priorities, usually by either “bathe baby,” “buy diapers,” or “eat something.” I’m just as guilty as the next new mom of letting the changes brought on by parenthood affect my friendships. Here’s the best example I can give of just how much they come into play: none of the ladies who stood up with me at my wedding has been able to visit my son more than twice in the year and a half he's been alive. Granted, it doesn’t help that they all live at least three hundred miles away, but still, I have no doubt that even if they lived closer, we wouldn't see each other nearly as often as we'd like. While I’m doing a little better with my local friends, it’s still an uphill battle. And I’m not talking just a regular old uphill battle, I’m talking pushing-a-stroller-uphill battle.
Thankfully, the women in my life who I can call my close friends are pretty rad, so none of them have disowned me. At least, not yet. For a while now, I’ve intended to give it to them straight about just how much I’m actually thinking about them, and still caring about them, but to be honest I haven’t found the right words or the time. Perhaps someone out there with greeting card connections might want to get in on this market? I’m sure lots of us would consider ‘thank you for still being my friend even though I’m super-distracted and completely unavailable right now" cards. You're welcome for the free idea. While you're doing the math to figure out my commission on the millions of dollars you're about to make off friendship-deprived moms, let's take a deeper look at just what else changes with your friendships after you have a baby