Parenthood is the ultimate instance of trial under fire. You may have read every parenting book cover to cover, grown up in a large family, or even nannied throughout your college years, but nothing can prepare you for the moment you realize that you and your kid's other parent are solely responsible for raising this tiny human. It’s exhilarating and terrifying all at once. But at least you knew that was the deal going in; you knew you'd have this new person to get to know, and care for. What you might not have realized is that having a baby with someone involves going through what amounts to a total re-introduction to them. Before kids, you’d probably swear you knew everything there was to know about your partner. But the reality is, until you take that giant leap into the parenting abyss together, there are some things you just can’t know about a person.
My husband and I lived together for nearly a decade, and were married for a solid three years before we brought any rugrats into the picture. We ate, we drank, and were generally merry. We traveled the world together. (Like really traveled. Not just drinking around the world at Epcot, although there was plenty of that too!) We’d stay up all night talking about our past and discussing our hopes and dreams for the future. We were best friends. Totally inseparable. In fact, we knew each other so well that we’d often joke that one of us needed to get kidnapped so we could return with new and interesting stories that the other didn't already know, or hadn't been a part of. So throwing a baby into the mix ended up throwing both of us for a loop. Because it turns out there was plenty I still needed to learn about my husband. Until you have a kid together, you just can’t know the following about your partner: