When my partner and I had our first child, our relationship was fairly new. We had only been dating for two years, so we weren't sure if our relationship would last or if we wanted the same things out of life. In other words, that pregnancy forced us to re-examine everything. But it wasn't until our daughter was born that our relationship was really, and I mean really, tested. Eventually I realized there are more than a few co-parenting arguments every couple has at least once, and my partner and I were no different.
Having a new baby when my partner and I were unsure about the foundation of our relationship wasn't ideal, but I learned a lot about myself and my now-husband when we decided to have a baby anyway. I realized what we had in common, what we absolutely didn't, what we were willing to compromise on, and what could be grounds for ending our relationship. It wasn't always easy to evaluate our relationship consistently, but we're different people with different goals and world views, raising a child together. We owed it to our daughter to figure out how to parent together, and that meant experiencing some growing pains and enduring a few arguments.
Of course, it's worth mentioning that there's a very real difference between an argument and an abusive fight, and in no way is a toxic relationship worth enduring so that you can "learn" about your partner. Arguments are normal, and I would argue necessary, but verbal abuse is not. That said, when arguing with your co-parent, in a healthy way, you're essentially learning how to resolve conflict, compromise with one another, and get on the same page so you can parent together, as a team. I'd say that's a good thing. So once my partner and I accepted the fact that some co-parenting arguments are totally normal, and we'd be OK regardless, raising a child together felt much, much easier. So with that in mind, here are some parenting disagreements that are totally fine, and may even bring your co-parenting relationship to a new level.