There’s nothing quite like the excitement of dating somebody new. There’s the cute first dates, the flirty text messages, and the amazing task that is getting to know someone you click with on another level. So you hate to kill the mood by asking deep questions about your partner’s visions for the future. And that’s totally fine. But when things start to get serious, there are a few conversations every couple needs to have in order to make sure you’re actually a match made in heaven.
What you need to talk about depends on what you and your new partner hold in high importance. For some, the future is a nebulous rollercoaster, and they’re just in for the ride. For others, a significant other needs to be able to fit in an obsessively detailed five year plan that you better believe is color-coded and features a flowchart...or seven. Chances are, you’re probably somewhere in between these two extremes, just wondering when you should move in with your boyfriend or if it’s too soon to ask your girlfriend if she wants to adopt a dog with you. I can’t promise you any hard and fast rules, because all relationships are different, but here are few a suggestions of where to start.