The first year of marriage can be equally exhilarating and exhausting. Once you've said your vows and returned from your romantic honeymoon, reality sets in. Things that were once adorable about your partner can become annoying when you're with them day in and day out. You may even find that you're fighting with your spouse more than ever. But that doesn't have to mean that you are bound for divorce court. There are fights all couples have in the first year of marriage that make them stronger for the next 50 years.
Even if you spent time living with your spouse before saying "I do," putting a ring on it definitely changes the things. Issues like money, household responsibilities, and whether or not to have children can be the cause of some pretty serious conflict that you and your partner will need to work through if you want to stay together. But the good news is that getting all of these issues out on the table in the first year of your marriage will make things a lot easier for the rest of your lives together.
So take the time now to decide which side of the bed you're going to sleep on. You're going to be there for a while.
Household finances are among the most common points of contention for newlyweds, according to She Knows. It's important for you and your spouse to get on the same page about how you will spend and save to avoid long-term trouble in your marriage.
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If you find yourselves arguing over whose night it is to wash the dishes, you're not alone. According to Ever After Guide, dividing the household responsibilities is not uncommon in relationships — particularly when both partners work. Making a schedule can help keep everyone honest and make sure the chores are divided fairly.
Children are a blessing, but there's no question that they can be a huge source of conflict for married couples. If you don't have children, the problem may be whether or not you will add to your family. And if you enter your marriage with children, you may be in conflict over certain parenting decisions. In the end, it's important that you and your spouse feel empowered to express your feelings, and that you work towards a decision that works for both of you.
If you think that getting married means you'll be having non-stop sex, think again. According to Psych Central, some couples see a decrease in the amount of sex they have within the first few months of marriage. Keep the lines of communication open with your spouse about your expectations of intimacy. And if it helps, schedule time for romance.
You may not live with your parents anymore, but they can still manage to find their way into your marriage and be the cause of conflict between you and your partner. According to She Knows, you and your spouse should agree on how much involvement you will allow your parents to have in your relationship.
You may have been able to spend every Thursday night drinking wine with your friends, but once you're married, things may have to change. According to the website Newlywed Survival, the influence of friends can cause conflict in a marriage.
Discovering that your spouse snores, bites their nails, or leaves dirty socks on the floor may send you over the edge in the first year of marriage. According to Today, do your best to speak to your partner in a non-confrontational way about the things that bother you, and always emphasize the things you love about your spouse.