I'm about to tell you something that might come off as a little shocking, but you deserve to know the truth. If someone tries to tell you that the first year of parenthood was magical, stress-free, and nothing but bliss, they're lying to you. There's such an unrealistic standard that there's supposed to be this honeymoon period, but in between spit up and midnight feedings, there are just some fights you have in the first year of parenthood that are completely unsolvable—and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that either.
Although milestones like getting married, landing a new job, and the birth of your child look like extremely happy experiences on paper, it turns out they can be quite stressful, too. According to a study in Demography by Dr. Mikko Myrskylä, professor of social statistics at Helsinki University, and Dr. Rachel Margolis, professor of sociology at The University of Western Ontario, "the drop in life satisfaction during the year following the first birth is larger than that caused by unemployment, divorce or the death of a partner." Before you freak out, the study does show that happiness levels bounce back and level out after the first year. This just goes to show you that you're not alone if you're feeling on edge. So breathe a little sigh of relief as you check out these fights you have as a first-time parent that are totally unsolvable.