Sex is an important part of most relationships, but it’s not the end all and be all of them. Sex ebbs and flows over the course of a long-term partnership. Sometimes you’re having lots of it and other times you’re not. And once kids enter the picture, it can be difficult to find time for sex or even the desire to do it. But there are plenty of non-sexual ways to show your spouse that you’re into them.
When life gets busy, sex often takes a backseat. And if you’re a couple who used sex as your primary way of feeling connected and intimate, the lack of it can take a toll on a relationship. But sex isn’t the only way to let your partner know that you think they’re all that (and a bag of chips.) Flirting can happen outside the bedroom and doesn’t take a lot of effort. It’s easy to do in front of the kids or while you’re apart during the day, and the increase in nonsexual intimacy may actually lead to more physical intimacy in the long run.
Alternatively, some people find that their sex drive changes after they have kids. In the early years of a family, one partner’s desire for sex might wane. When that happens, it can be helpful to find ways to let your spouse know that you haven’t lost interest in them, even if you’re not up for sex at the moment. Here are nine ways to do just that.