When you're pregnant, you get advice from everyone. Literally, everyone. Your friends, your family, and strangers on the street will stop you to share words of wisdom from their pregnancy days. Anyone is ready to dole out advice and tell you every old wives tale in the book. And then there are those who get extra personal and want to give you pregnancy sex tips. You've heard the old wives tales, you've heard some of them are actually true, but what about the old wives tales about having sex while pregnant that aren't true?
Whether you believe old wives tales or scoff at them, some of the old wives tales about pregnancy sex are worth a gander. Because those old wives knew a thing or two, but they also had a penchant for exaggerating. You might learn a thing or two about how to get down while your baby's inside of you growing up. No matter how far along you are in your pregnancy, you'll be questioning the logistics and possibilities of having sex while pregnant eventually, even when you're not feeling too up to the task right. So read on, and get to the bottom of those tales so you can have sex while pregnant without a care.
1. Your Baby Can Feel It
You can go ahead and take all those notions about your baby being able to feel you having intercourse, and throw them out the window. According to Mayo Clinic, your baby can't feel when you're having sex. Because the penis can't go beyond the vagina (unless you're working with a magical penis), there's no risk of your baby feeling anything.
2. Shower Sex Is A No Go
If you're worried about possible bacteria creeping in while having sex in the steady stream of water that a shower brings, don't. According to Drs. Yvonne Bohn, Allison Hill, and Alane Park, authors of The Mommy Docs' Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy and Birth, your baby is protected inside the amniotic bag from germs and bacteria. So as long as you're careful about the slippery nature of the shower, you're good to go.
3. Sex Will Induce Early Labor
According to Baby Center, sexual stimulation and orgasm can't induce labor or cause a miscarriage, which is another concern among moms. Though an orgasm can cause mild uterine contractions, they won't be labor contractions. So you're safe to have has much sex as you'd like while pregnant.
4. If Your Sex Drive Is Strong, You're Having A Boy
There's literally no basis to this one. If you've got a strong sex drive, it's probably got a lot more to do with hormones than it does with the sex of your baby. Moms over at Mom Query agree, some of them had pregnancies with boys, and had no desire to have sex throughout their pregnancies.
5. If You Have No Sex Drive, You're Having A Girl
According to Baby Center, some women have a heightened libido throughout pregnancy. Most women's sex drive will fluctuate throughout pregnancy, just as it does when they're not pregnant. It doesn't mean that you're having a boy or a girl. So roll with your sex drive, because it's probably heading one way or the other fairly shortly.
6. Your Partner's Sex Drive Will Go Down
The idea that your partner's sex drive depleted when you become pregnant is completely absurd. Though men may be tentative, it's not because they don't find you attractive. According to Baby Center, it's because they're afraid that intercourse will hurt the baby. If your partner needs convincing, bring them along to your next prenatal appointment. Your doctor can reassure your partner that as long as your pregnancy is normal, you're just fine to have sex.
7. You Can't Have Oral Sex
According to the Mayo Clinic, oral sex is completely safe during pregnancy. However, it's important to make sure your partner doesn't blow into your vagina during oral sex. Although it's very rare, according to the site, a burst of air might block a blood vessel, which could be dangerous for you and your baby. But as long as your partner doesn't utilizing gusts of air during oral sex, you're good to go.