Getting pregnant, whether you're trying for the first time or you've been pregnant multiple times before, can be a more emotional journey and more stressful, overwhelming experience than you might think it will be when you first decide to try. It's not always as simple and straightforward as it seems for some. And, sadly, just because you've gotten pregnant before and you didn't experience many struggles doing so, doesn't mean that you'll have it so easy the next time. There are some physical signs that it may be difficult for you to have more than one child, according to fertility experts, that you might not be anticipating. And while the difficulties can be biological, you may also find that you experience mental and emotional roadblocks when the time comes to grow your family, particularly if your previous pregnancy or birthing experience was especially taxing or traumatic.
If you're concerned about difficulties that you experienced during your first pregnancy or birthing experience impacting any future pregnancies or births, talking to your healthcare providers could potentially help. "I would say that the best way to handle this question is to speak to the obstetrician [or] midwife who took care of you during the first pregnancy, and frankly ask them what are the chances of this particular difficulty happening again," Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, MD, clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University, tells Romper by email.
Knowing what you may want to expect and knowing how your circumstances might affect your ability or desire to have another child is important because it can help you feel more in charge of your own life.