The whole postpartum experience isn't easily explained, as it varies from woman-to-woman with different levels of severity. One thing's for sure, though; it's a damn hard process and find your "new normal" after you've had a baby while simultaneously recovering from childbirth. You might even have a few thoughts about your partner postpartum that you can't necessarily control (or want to admit to even having). I'm here to tell you that you don't have to be ashamed about any of them, no matter how awful they seem in retrospect. Seriously, not a damn one.
Before my first pregnancy, I'd read about a plethora of postpartum experiences and possibilities, but it wasn't until I actually experienced it firsthand did I understand the depth of loneliness and confusion this time would provide. Overwhelmed, exhausted, suffering from postpartum depression and trying to live up to this image of superwoman I had in my head, there was probably little my partner could do to be everything I needed.
I love my partner and, to his credit, he tried to the best of his ability. However, navigating this new life and the hormones that overcame me made postpartum life difficult for us both. For me, it was so much more than adjusting to new life as a mother, and there was so much beyond my control; how my body healed, how I felt, and things I thought about my partner, both good and bad. While it's normal to go through ups and downs when you're a brand new parent, it doesn't always feel that way when you're going through it. So, with that in mind, here are a few thoughts you might have about your partner postpartum, that you absolutely don't need to apologize for: